how can i help my five year old start processing information?

[1dayatime669131]

My five year old started pre-k this year at the public school. Her teacher and i have talked and had conferences. Her teacher tells me that she is progressing but slowly. It seems that we ( the teacher and I) can't get through to her. She knows how to spell her name pretty well and she can pick out most of her abc and she can count to ten. My main problem is trying to get her to listen to me when I instruct her to clean her room, or pick up her toys from the living room.  Sometimes when I talk to her or call her name I have to yell it so she hears me. it's like she ignores me.  I do time outs for declipline and take away privilages but that doesn't seem to help. She cries all the time especially she doesn't get her way. I read to her everynight and tuck her in, give hugs and kiss, just yesterday we colored easter eggs. We play cards and candy land. I have tried everything to get through to her even during instructional areas. sometimes i seem to pull my hair out and cry. Please what am i doing wrong?  

[Sandman2]

    There is a big difference between learning an educational item and, "My main problem is trying to get her to listen to me when I instruct her to clean her room, or pick up her toys from the living room."   One thing is more of a change in behavior, while the other is educational and their are a host of factors that figure in.
    Since you main emphasis seems to be on the behavioral - You might want to get "SOS Help for Parents," by Lynn Clark.  It gives a very good method for changing behavior using the timeout system.   It may be that you are not quite using the timeout system correctly or are expecting results sooner than you should.
   There is a wonderful set of books aimed at the 4-7 year old crowd.  They are very colorful and meant to be read out loud to the kids.  The series is called the "Learning to get along" series.  An example of a good one is the "Know and follow rules".  More can be found  here - http://www.amazon.com/Follow-Rules-Cheri-Meiners-M-Ed/dp/1575421305/ref=pd_sim_b_3.    Hope this helps.

[looloo141]

Does she have any behavioural issues? My stepdaughter is the same and is very inattentive, or she'll say dad, dad, dad,dad.. constantly asks questions and them doesn't listen to the answer over and over.. she is the same as your daughter, doesnt hear tasks or complete them.. she is underacheiving at school, refuses to to exams etc. She is 9 and school have mentioned adhd, as it presents different in girls. I'm not saying this is the case for you.. does she hear things she wants to hear? We've tested her hearing aswell x

[jdtm]

I doubt if you are doing anything wrong.  Some people learn easily; others find learning more difficult.  I wonder if your daughter is unable to do many of the things that are being asked of her.  Many children can count to 10, recite their ABC's and even print their name by three years of age.  So, I suspect some of the work at school is just too difficult for your daughter at this point in time and that is why you are seeing her frustrating behaviour.  She will learn but it may be at a slower pace than most of her classmates.  Your daughter's teacher has said that she is "progressing slowly" which indicates this may be the issue.   We all have different gifts - some in athletics, some in music, some in art, some in leadership, some in social situations, and some in a learning environment.  This is what makes the world interesting.  I wish you the best ...