10 yr girl playing sex w/6 yr old cousin

[believeinthree]

My daughter is 6 years old and often plays with her older cousin who is 10.  A couple months ago my daughter starting laughing when she heard the word sex.  I asked her why and she said it was the name of the game she plays. I guess the 10 year old makes my daughter undress and she does the same then they take turns touching each other and laying on top of each other.  I was horrified and disgusted, they no longer play and its put a strain on the family since her mom wants to keep it a secret.  It has since never been mentioned again and I often listen when my daughter plays in her room as to what she is playing.  Today we caught her playing sex with our 2 year old son!!! We don't know what to do.  do we report our family?  Her mom doesn't seem to want to help and I am going to seek counseling for my daughter...this isn't normal right???

[SamanthaBA89]

to be honest with you kids are curious and they don't know any better they start getting sexual urges really early on and they don't know any better  it's really not a cause for concern you should just explain to them that it's not right at this age and they're too young to be doing things like that  you're not alone I've heard many stories like this it's just sexual curiosity and you shouldn't feel bad or ashamed you just need to speak to your children about it  they don't even understand what they're feeling and they don't know how to express those feelings at such a young age I would say you're in the majority not the minority do with the situation

[specialmom]

This is an old post.  I agree that supervision is the key to kids and particular when something like this is discovered to be happening.  Child on child molestation does occur and is such a sad thing when it does.  It can be a vicious cycle of a child then going on to molest another child after they've been molested.  Discovering where the sexualization began happening (something happened with them or they have seen things) is really a good conversation to have.  Dialogue with your children is a positive thing.  And making sure kids know this is unacceptable is important.  good luck

[Ihat8bobb]

Let the kids be kids.  Many of these stories sound like the parents are too over protective.  The type where if the child falls at the playground, mom & dad come sprinting over in horror.  Kids do these types of experimental things, get over it!

[Kitkat113]

I strongly disagree. This story basically describes my childhood and I have struggled with it to this day and it has been 20+ years. It's not okay to sweep these things under the rug as difficult as it may be for parents to deal with the idea of the children committing such acts. It's also not fair to all of the other children who will be sexually abused as a result of the children not getting help. It is likely he was a victim of sexual abuse himself. While a child may not understand when they are young, they will likely question things as they get older and struggle with it so it is a disservice to all of the children involved to ignore it.

[xXx_Christy_xXx]

Kids do not experiment in this way unless they have been abused. They are mimicking behavior that's been done to them.

[margypops]

Supervison you know theres a problem and your 6 year old is copying her cousin, so do not let her alone with the 2 year old ..at all, speak to her tell her its not a good thing, you should speak to the other mom who wants this a secret, and tell her she needs to find out whether the 10 year old has been abused.,she could be protecting someone in the family.

[Coldcupofructosesyrup]

When I was probably 4 or 5 years old I was molested by my 16 year old uncle who was also sexually abused by his father. I used to hump pillows and my couch because I liked the way it felt. But I had also REPRESSED that I was molested until I was 16 years old. It felt like a dream because I was taken out of my room while I was sleeping. When I also remember walking in on my mom and dad having sex as a kid. When I got older, like six or seven, I showed my little brother what "mommy and daddy" do together. We eventually got caught by my grandmother and I felt extremely guilty. Never did it again. She talked to both of us individually. I still carried guilt until one day when I was 16 this repressed memory came back and I realized the reason I did those things my grandma said was bad. So I mean, I was sexually abused but kids who haven't been subjected to it are more than willing to jump on board as they think it feels good too.

[Coldcupofructosesyrup]

To add: my brother was a year and a half younger than me. And kids are more likely to trust kids who are closer to their age.