My 5 yr old grandson and 3 yr old granddaughter

[nanamummy3]

My 5 yr old grandson who is in my care has been touching my 3yr old granddaughter though it does sound like both are equal to blame (if you can call it blame). He has not been sexually abused or witnessed any sexual activity ,he did press his penis against her vagina ! I have to admit I am absolutely shocked at this (I am not narrow minded) . How does he know where the connection comes in ? This has happened twice ,I have just found out today that he asked a little girl at nursery to touch his "private parts" and the Mum has informed me of this,really dont know what to say or do.I have spoken to physcologist,social worker and health visitor previously and the said it was normal ,but to monitor them . Now that he has said it to a stranger I`m not really sure what to do ? He starts school this autumn and I am worried that if he does it there it may cause bedlam or at least label him ????

[nanamummy3]

We now believe that he HAS seen some form of sexual activity whether on t.v. or at home ,he is seeing physcologist and other help as I cannot do this on my own .Thank you for you advice

[nanamummy3]

Thank you,since leaving this post he is now seeing a psycologist ,as his behaviour has not improved

[Pharmacist1]

This is an abnormal behavior of a child in his age ,.He is not born knowing about sex and how it is done ,.it's an ccquired behavior . He don't know anything about sexual relations . Only he do what he see . This is like he say what he hears , he will not say any word that is not heared before .

Now , you should keep an eye on your child , what he see on TV , internet .or even you and your father , his relatives ,.
Your child need support from you . Never spank or shout to him , bcoz  it will come back with anegative impact on him.
Hope everything will be fine .

[MarkLakewood3367]

The first thing I would do is set appropriate limits and boundaries with him by disciplining the behavior.  Secondly, I would think that it would be a good idea to at least consult with a mental health professional seeing that this behavior re-occurs especially with a stranger.  This could be a sign that he was sexually abused.  You definitely want to get a handle on this situation now while he is young.