3 years old and not potty trained

[sweetheart207]

my daighter is turning three in a couple of days we have now been traing for a whole year she was okay in the begining she would say when she needed to go but the past few months she wont say she needs to go and if she dose shes already gone in her pull up this past week for some reason she gets put on the potty and she gets up and pottys the floor and refuses to sit on the potty now she knows the concept of going i dont understand why she is doing this three years old and still in pull ups sometimes i feel like putting her back in diapers since she refuses do go i have another daughter who is nine months and then iam pregnect with another one i dont know if this could be realated to why she is doin this please help i have tried all i can with her and im at the end of my roap i caint handle haveing a daughter who pees and poops all over my floor to be honest iam disgusted by it im stuck please help what do i do???

[lily2009]

I didn't think my second child was ever going to be potty trained.  He was nearly in kidnergarten and finally and I mean finally he went on the potty.  My first child was trained about 15 months so needlessto say I was very nervous about the second.  Each child matures at a different rate.  Your child will be trained before he starts school  No fears, some are just slower than others.  I have never seen a child in school with diapers.  

[specialmom]

I agree.  Yikes it took forever for my second son to get potty trained.  He had NO interest as he said he was a 'baby' (he is OUR baby at our house and always will be, but that baby stuff was getting old).  I was in the fame of mind as the previous poster. I tried not to get riled up about it as I knew it would happen.  He was healthy and developing fine in every other way.  So I was patient even when it was hard.  Finally, without pressure----  we picked out underwear at the store, I put it in a basket, took off the pull up and left that boy bare bottemed!  I'm not kidding----  he was potty trained in 2 days.  I think because he was older.   So that is one advantage in her being older (by the way, my son got potty trained right after his 4th---- I said 4th birthday!)  He never has accidents and does all his business in the big potty (no potty seats either).  Hang in there, it really will happen.  I understand your worry with ---- oh my gosh----  a 9 month old and another one  on the way!!!  You are one busy mom!!  I hope you are feeling okay during your pregnancy.  I was sick for both of mine which made everything worse.  Oh yeah, one last thing.  As she is a little difficult about the potty right now.  Back off for a week and start over then.  And praise her like she won your family 5 million dollars if she does anything in that potty (even just sit on it!!)  Good luck.

[mrsmills393]

my friends son was 3 and starting pre school in the fall and still wasn't potty trained and she was feeling the same way, he knew what it was for and how to use it and everything, so after the visited the pre school before he started there, she asked him is he wanted to be the only kid in school who had to have his bum changed while all the other kids used the potty and he was potty trained that night.  

[lexchlmoo]

don't put her in pull ups anymore.  let her wear big girl panties.  and talk to her that this is what big girls where or mommie wears big girl panties.  let it be something exciting for her to do.  

she may be feeling jealous or left out with the baby attention, so try to have some one on one time with each child to make them feel special.

my little girl was on her way being potty trained by time she was two or so, but we moved and it was like going backwards.  she started to pee on herself again and didn't want to go.  but after a while and many talks about being a big girl and mommy doesn't pee on herself, she moved on.  plus pull ups are like diapers, so once you take those away she has to deal with the concept of peeing on herself.  she may hate the feeling and start going.  

or some tough love may help.  a friend of mine told her friend's little boy that he smelled cause he wouldn't go to the potty and he was 4 or 5.  plus he would run over his mom.  she kept him for a week and took him to the potty and diapers where  history.  his mom couldn't believe she had him potty trained.