My exceptionally bright three and a half year old son started having temper tantrums in February when his younger sister was born. They were quite violent and involved throwing furniture. A month later he began having seizures and the seizures and the temper tantrums both have the out of control feeling. He was a very sweet little boy- but now he is very oppositional. He fights me on everything. He is resisting potty training despite having been physically able for a year. He hates pre-school and sobs hysterically when I take him there. He also has begun having almost daily tantrums that can last for an hour. I am unable to interrupt them with time outs, rewards or other systems. Today he had a melt down at a store when I would not purchase a toy for him. He screamed, kicked, hit, spat, and yelled - refusing to be strapped into his car seat. It culminated with my having to call my husband to come to the parking lot to help strap him into his car seat as he kept getting out and thrashing. I am exhausted and at my wit's end. I do not know if this is from the old seizure medication, the new seizure medication (he is switching), the underlying electrical brain activity, abnormal behavior or age appropriate behavior for a little boy under a lot of stress. I need some guidance. I know it is upsetting him too as he complains about his anger and moods and said the other day that he didn't want to go to school because with his anger he was a threat (his word!!!). He didn't get that from us and so he is clearly struggling. How do I help him and how do I get some relief?