5 year old about to be kicked out of daycare

[hope_im_not_the_only_1]

Anyone one who has advise I would really appreciate it. I have a 5 year old and she has been having problems for just over a year that has progressed and gotten worse over this time and she has a problem with her teachers at school and daycare. She throws tantrums and simply will not listen to the teachers at these facilities. I have tried bringing her to a counselor we went over the problems and what I have done to try to prevent this from and after two sessions I was told that she was too young to work with her and that she seems fine. Then I keep hearing it from her teachers and it is wearing me down. I feel like they are telling me my child is the worst child they have ever seen and that I am the worst parent.

[hope_im_not_the_only_1]

Thank you for your responses and to answer the question of does she act like this at home, no. I don't see that side of her. She is fine with my friends and family also. Everyone I have told said that they can't see her acting out like that. So this is why I am like "wow.... They are really telling me my child is one of the worst children they have ever seen", becuase I know for sure that she isn't the worst I have ever seen.

[musicmama]

I was shocked to hear that she is too young for therapy.  I would find another therapist, especially one who does play therapy.  My youngest son (adopted) has been in therapy since he was 3.  

I don't know if your daughter is this difficult at home too.  I have had several students who have been like this (especially kindergarten).  Most of the students that I have that behave this way end up going to an alternative campus that works on behavior modification.  They keep small classes and give very specific instructions about what is expected (what sitting at your spot looks like, etc.) with a LOT of praise for every few minutes they get something right.  One method that works very well is 1-2-3 Magic.  There is a series of steps to take with this, but it is simple and easy to understand.

Hang in there.  There is always an answer.
Good luck and God bless.

[RockRose]

Hope,  do you see this at home?  Can you ask her to do things and she is compliant,  and when you have family gatherings,  your family would say she is an agreeable compliant child,  and they would be very surprised to hear this is happening with her?

Or in general is she very difficult to direct and she reacts this way in most settings?