7 years old boy won't talk to adults

[Mum17]

I am very worried for my 7 years old boy. He's very talkative with his cousins and friends but he's very shy with adults. He has poor eye contact. He's going in grade 2 this year. We haven't got any other complains from his school teachers yet except that he's very quit and shy. He's even very shy talk to his grandparents. He goes to their house everyday. My husband and I encourage him a lot to talk to adults, it just works temporary. Can someone advise me on this? Should i get him tested for  Selective Mutism?
Thank you

[allmymarbles]

What is wrong with being shy and quiet? Sounds like a fine addition to our noisy world.

[Mum17]

will do.

[MarkLakewood3367]

You are more than welcome.  Please keep me posted.

[Mum17]

Thank you Mark - I will  definitely work with him. Thank you for the game suggestion. I was thinking of buying him some board games.

[MarkLakewood3367]

This is the game I was thinking of:  http://www.ungame.com/.  This is a wonderful game that focuses on communication, self expression, and feelings that could easily be played one on one or with the whole family.  You should be able to purchase this game just about anywhere including Amazon.com. This game should help encourage your son to freely learn and communicate with adults.

[Mum17]

yes, I have talked to him many times, he keeps on saying next time i will talk to them. Sometimes he says he doesn't know what to talk about. It's very hard to know what's going on in his mind. In the beginning I thought he will grow out of it but he didn't. I talked to his pediatrician, he referred us to go see Autism specialist. They assessed him and they said he doesn't autism. I am so confused now. Maybe i will talking to the school counselor. They may able to help. Thank you for your response.

[MarkLakewood3367]

It is difficult to say what might be going on as your son has always been shy around adults.  You might want to discuss your concerns with the school counselor since the school is already familiar with your son.  The counselor might be able to offer some greater  insight into this area.  

By default, students must interact with their adult teachers.  It is strange that the school doesn't see this as a problem unless it isn't a problem at the school.  Could it be that this issue occurs more so at home?  Also, have you discussed this issue with your son?  It would be interesting to hear his response.

[Mum17]

Thank you for response Mark. He's been always this way. Talk very less with adults. He can't go and ask for help. 2 weeks ago, we went to the store and he got lost. Instead of asking for help, he started crying. He's very well behaved in school. I get so many compliments for his behavior. It's just that he's quite. When he gets in to a fight with his age friends and cousins, he won't stand up for himself, won't argue or fight back if he's right. I worry for him. In school, he's good with his studies but never get recognized because he doesn't talk much or won't communicate well with the teachers. Once he got into a  trouble in school for spilling water. When i asked him he said he didn't do it, his other classmate did and he blamed him. He couldn't say that he didn't do it to his teacher. I am worried because i don't him bullied by someone when he grows up.

[MarkLakewood3367]

Mutism basically means not talking.  By your post, it sounds as if he is shy around adults (talks less to adults than other kids).  The good thing is that the school folks don't see this as a problem.  

Has your son always been this way?  If not, when did this behavior start and was there an event that occurred when this behavior began?

Have you asked your son why he is shy and not very talkative around adults?  If so, what was his answer?