5 year old crys every day when i drop her off at school.

[mommy2585]

well it has been a long road. My daughter crys every day when i take her to school. I fill like why my daughter she does like school she talks about her friends and things they do an says she has fun. She is in kindergarden now last year in preschool she ajusted much faster by 2 weeks she was ok but she has allways been this way since 9 months old she will still cry at my moms and she has been going there since she a 4 months old i am cofused she will even back out of certain sitations with other kids she is very bright learning every thing on point .An to top it all off the school she goes to does not want parents walking kids to class an up till today i did. Well to day when we went in the teachers helper was waiting at the end of the hallway to walk her down she just screamed like never befor i mean. I do not want my kid tramatised an end up hateing school. the teacher told me that she could wait in the office each morning an someone will come down an get her an remind u she just turned five a week ago she is just in kindergaded  an besides why should she fill punished for being scared for her mom to leave her cause thats how i think she will fill if she has to wait in the office every morning. i talked to the principal an she said well thats there policy an gave me the reason is cause all the parents would want to talk to the teacher in the morning an she is to busy. An so kids like "mine" can not interuped the class.............. please help with any advice i fill like my kid is the only kid in the world like this.  thanks mommy2585

[jdtm]

Actually, it is very common for schools to not want parents to walk their children to the classroom.  I think it has to do with security issues as well as interrupting the teacher (who is working at the time).

Separation anxiety at the beginning of school is a very, very common problem.  If you google the phrase "separation anxiety and kindergarten" or "tips for school anxiety" or "kindergarten anxiety" or similar words/phrases, you should be able to find lots of information re this topic.  In addition, there are many, many books on this topic which can be purchased on-line, in bookstores or borrowed from your public library system.  Even your local school might have information on this issue.  If this anxiety  does not improve by the Christmas break, then please contact us for further information.  I wish you the best ...

[teko]

Nope, pretty normal. It sounds like separation anxiety and can only be cured with time and making her conform with the routine all the children are doing. Once you have made sure that she is not mistreated, ignored or something else going on that would cause you to think something is not right, you just have to wait for her to make the adjustment and not give in to the outbursts. My grandaughter was screaming every time she was dropped at the sitters, I mean scream! I just knew something was wrong. I told my daughter that at the very least, she hated being there and I got the feeling there was something more. Come to find out the sitter was mean to her, spanking her for no reason and hit her on the head with a telephone book. Let me just say it was good that the babysitter did not open the door to Nana! Smart move on her part. My little one has not been back there since then.