i just recently moved in with my girlfriend who's daughter is 5 (i have no kids) - the little girl is basically running things around the house and mom gives in to everything the girl wants, eventually. ive talked to my gf about it and we've come to the conclusion that something must be done. every morning there is a fight about brushing teeth, and what clothes she will and wont wear (she tells mom to pick it out, then says no shes not wearing it, pick out something else and so on and so forth), do my hair like yours, no thats not good enough..etc. - but at night is the biggest problem, mom has allowed, thus far, the little girl to lay on the couch every night and watch tv until she falls asleep, then mom carries her to her room and puts her down, every night the little girl wakes up and crawls in bed with us (she seems too old, to me at least, for this behavior). i sat the little girl down and talked to her, told her we were setting some new rules and have set up a chores and reward program and also given her some big kid responsibility to make her own breakfast and pick out her own clothes. the girl responds to me quite well and does what i ask of her except when mom gets around, but thats another issue altogether. so big new rule was we were going to act like a big girl and sleep in her own bed, no tv - instead reading a book, and if she woke up in the middle of the night, at first, she could come in the room with us (just to ween her off of it slowly) but at least start off in her room. it started off wonderfully, mom read her a story then i laid in there and talked to her until she fell asleep - then 1:30am wake up call... horrible.. she throws a huge fit, blood curtling screams and nonstop crying, because she wants to watch tv, we say no and stick to it (but of course mom wants us to just turn on the tv to shut her up).. the fit lasts about 30min, then she wants an oreo, then she wants her daddy, then back to the tv, this fit, still screaming and crying and now running from us around the house and trying to turn on the tv set, lasts another 30 min.. then when finally realizing she is not getting her way, a new game begins, now her eyes hurt and she cant sleep and now she needs medicine cause her leg hurts and now she needs a damp rag for her eyes, no not that towel a different towel, now you didnt wet it enough, now shes thirsty, now she doesnt want the towel, now she does want the towel, get a different towel, now she wants to sleep in moms bed. i wanted to put her in her room and let her cry it out, but im apparently heartless, mom gives in to the new game being played now.. no longer the tv fight, its now the power struggle to get her way (at least in my eyes), and the kid just won it again.. please help me before mom loses faith in my ideas for better behavior (it was hard enough to even talk to her about it seeing as its not my kid) and before i go insane.