I have 2 boys 6 & 4. I toilet trained my then 3 year old son in may 2007, he did great even went to bed & didnt wet the bed at night. He turned 4 in Jan 2008.
I was 4 months pregnant at the time. We went on a family holiday in June 2007 & everything changed, he started wetting his pants & pooing in them, we ended up putting him in Little swimmers during the day & pull ups again at night. I decided I would try to retrain him again on our return.
I moved into my parents house for 2 weeks while they were on holidays & this wetting etc still continued so I left it again for another while. I started up the sticker chart & everything went well.
Had to keep him in Pull ups at night as just didnt seem to sink in to get up during the night to go to the bathroom even though I would cut out drinks in the evening & make him use the bathroom before he went to bed. Now he is back doing this at least once a week, I had my 3rd child a girl & ended up in hospital for 2 weeks so put it down to this with him being out of sorts, I had blamed the break in his routine prior to this due to moving him out of his home when in my parents also.
I have slapped him, reasoned with him, put him back in a nappy to try to embarrass him, threatened to take toys off him, stop him from going to montessori, told him he wont be allowed go to big school in Sep. I watch him throughout the day & see him jumping & tell him to go to the bathroom, it sometimes takes me 4 times to tell him before he will stop what he is doing to go. He leaves it til the last minute & jumps around while taking down his pants to go to the toilet & by then he has already wet them. He has started to go & change his clothes himself & put the wet pants in the laundry basket & tells me not to look at them. He has soiled himself on few occasions, when out with my brother & his son, when I have had a friend in the house, when he is out in my parents house with other children. I have tried to figure out is it an attention thing or just pure laziness.
I dont know what to do anymore. I have rewarded him from the sticker chart when he has a full day of no accidents, should I go back down this route again ?