I have a 6 year old daughter, a 4 year old daughter, and a son that would have been three on November 16, but passed away at birth due to complications and sever health problems. I have taken her to her intake appointment yesterday with a psychiatrist. and she has been talking to her counslor at school as well.. but the school says she's perfect that they don't see it. she has some little out burst but mothing that they thought was abnormal because she is in 1st grade and 1st graders tend to act out with other students but she's never hurt any students at school like she has her sister. I'm 23 and just scared...i want to get/ and am willing to do what ever i need to to make sure that both of my babies are safe..it's already become a problem at home with them not being allowed in the same room without an adult in the room.. i don't make a big issue of it.. but us adults all know if they are in a room together one of us ( mommy, daddy, mom-mom, or pop-pop) stay in that room. they don't know why we just make it like we wanna play or hang out with them... She tells me all the time that she's a bad, mean girl, and i tell her thats no she isn't. She was the most well behaved baby, slept through the night from the start, hardly ever cryed, always smiled and laughed, cralwed, walked, talked early on, potty trained at 18 months, right before her lil sister was born. then when her sister was born all this started at first i thought it was a jealousy issue for a couple years. just little stuff like taking toys, bitting, hitting, not wanting to share, stuff kids go through, i was and only child until i was 10 then my mom had two 11 months apart so they fought alot so i kinda related it to them being to close in age and both being girls, but over the past year things have gotten worse. i just don't understand how one could have so much i donno ( hate) towards a sibling. she has told me she never wanted a sister she wanted a brother but god took her brother and not her sister. it's scary!!!! i love them both sooo much.. i spend alone time with both of them almost daily that way we have one on one. we spend alot of family time together doing fun things, she will be the first on to hurt her little sister but if someone else does like when were at the park or something she sticks up for her like they are they best of sisters ever, her little sister looks up to her soo much and even after she gets hit, kicked, puched, whatever happens she still wants to be right next to her n hug her n play.. thanks for your imput... i guess it's nice just having people to talk to about gettin and outsider's imput on the situation as well..
Your name says "3lilangels". Is there another child at home?
I agree with Margy 100%! it's time to get an expert involved. your older child's doctor as well as possibly a psychiatrist. I would also not allow any unsupervised play. i do not believe that your 6-year-old is evil or any such dribble but I think she has some serious anger/jealousy issues that need addressing before they BECOME a problem....and your little one needs protecting from older sibs jealousy. Best of luck..please get your 6-year-old evaluated ASAP.
I know you're scared and worried and the medical professionals in your child's life are going to be your best resource here...good luck hon.
I think that perhaps you should speak to your Doctor as what you have told us is of some concern, it is possible that the 6year old has strong jealous feelings towards the 4 year old. reading your post I think an evaluation of her behavior by an expert is in order.