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6 yr old needs help
Let me start by saying I know we need help but we can't get in anywhere till March. My 6 almost 7yr old daughter is having alot of problems. I get notes and phone calls from her teacher on an almost daily basis. My mother who used to take my older kids for weekend visits to her house will not take her. She just can't handle her. (She does not know that her siblings had this treat and she doesn't due to a large age difference). I am at my wits end here. I have dealt with alot in the past such as my oldest (20) has severe learning disabilities, my 18yr old had adhd issues and probably still does (he seems to be self medicating and I have an appoint for him at the same place but not until March. My point is I have dealt with alot of different things in the past but her behavior is seriously out of control and I am losing control over any situation involving her. Even playing a board game or reading has become a major issue. In the meantime I need help!!!!! I will describe the behaviors below.
She has major anger issues. Whenever she gets mad she will throw a tantrum for hours and I am not exaggerating. She has gotten so bad she throws up. I will not give her attention during this if I can help it. I put her in a back room and tell her she can come out when she calms down but she is not going to disturb and upset the entire family with this. These tantrums can be triggered by anything. Having it happen in public has now become a more common problem and outside of leaving quickly I don't know what else to do. But, then we are again giving her control over the situation. She is hitting her older brother, father and myself. She has not hurt her little brother but I am afraid that may be next.
She steals and lies all the time. She will steal from family members, stores. anyone that has something she wants. I have taken her back to the store to tell them what she had done. She seems very sorry but it has done nothing to stop the behavior. So far we have had no reports of her stealing from school but it is just a matter of time. I have to pat her down before we leave a store anymore. She will lie about anything. It doesn't even have to be important. Eventually she will tell me the truth because she knows I know when she is lying.
The disrespect to myself, her father (we are happily married and he is very much involved with her), and anyone else has gotten so bad that people are now staying away from her which is causing her to feel very bad about herself and angry which triggers all new problems.
She is very destructive. I can't even imagine the thousands of dollars worth of stuff she has destroyed over the last 2-3 yrs. From writting with sharpie on the doors to using scissors and cutting up my sofa. I am scared of what is going to be next.
She also seems to get stuck on something. If her pencil needs sharpening or she has one of her frequent (and convienently timed) stomach aches she will stand there and just repeat it over and over again. You can't distract her or redirect her EVER! Her teacher is having a real hard time with this. While she is being punished or she is in a tantrum (more like a rage) she will repeat things over and over till you are pulling your hair out IE: I want to watch cartoons. over and over and over again.
She is like wild woman!! Bouncing off walls does not even come close to describing what we go through. I at first was thinking adhd because this is above and beyond any type of normal but academically she is doing great.
She has stated many times that she hates herself and she hits herself and this really scares me, She is not even 7 yet and to feel this way already just about breaks my heart. I am not an inexperienced mom here. She is my 3rd out of 4 and before anyone asks this all started before I got pregnant with my son. I know normal and not so normal behavior for a child and is off the charts for not so normal. I don't know where to turn but I do know for my sanity and her emotional well being I can't wait till March before I do anything.
She has major anger issues. Whenever she gets mad she will throw a tantrum for hours and I am not exaggerating. She has gotten so bad she throws up. I will not give her attention during this if I can help it. I put her in a back room and tell her she can come out when she calms down but she is not going to disturb and upset the entire family with this. These tantrums can be triggered by anything. Having it happen in public has now become a more common problem and outside of leaving quickly I don't know what else to do. But, then we are again giving her control over the situation. She is hitting her older brother, father and myself. She has not hurt her little brother but I am afraid that may be next.
She steals and lies all the time. She will steal from family members, stores. anyone that has something she wants. I have taken her back to the store to tell them what she had done. She seems very sorry but it has done nothing to stop the behavior. So far we have had no reports of her stealing from school but it is just a matter of time. I have to pat her down before we leave a store anymore. She will lie about anything. It doesn't even have to be important. Eventually she will tell me the truth because she knows I know when she is lying.
The disrespect to myself, her father (we are happily married and he is very much involved with her), and anyone else has gotten so bad that people are now staying away from her which is causing her to feel very bad about herself and angry which triggers all new problems.
She is very destructive. I can't even imagine the thousands of dollars worth of stuff she has destroyed over the last 2-3 yrs. From writting with sharpie on the doors to using scissors and cutting up my sofa. I am scared of what is going to be next.
She also seems to get stuck on something. If her pencil needs sharpening or she has one of her frequent (and convienently timed) stomach aches she will stand there and just repeat it over and over again. You can't distract her or redirect her EVER! Her teacher is having a real hard time with this. While she is being punished or she is in a tantrum (more like a rage) she will repeat things over and over till you are pulling your hair out IE: I want to watch cartoons. over and over and over again.
She is like wild woman!! Bouncing off walls does not even come close to describing what we go through. I at first was thinking adhd because this is above and beyond any type of normal but academically she is doing great.
She has stated many times that she hates herself and she hits herself and this really scares me, She is not even 7 yet and to feel this way already just about breaks my heart. I am not an inexperienced mom here. She is my 3rd out of 4 and before anyone asks this all started before I got pregnant with my son. I know normal and not so normal behavior for a child and is off the charts for not so normal. I don't know where to turn but I do know for my sanity and her emotional well being I can't wait till March before I do anything.
dear drunwindow,
i have a six yr old daughter that hits herself in the face when she gets mad and gets really loud in public to get attention. i to am looking for ansewers. in your case, i was wondering have you had her tested for autisim. i have a friend whos son does that and he is autistic. i hope you find help soon. i know what it feels like to love your child but not like them and thats an awful feeling.
sencerly,
ona27
i have a six yr old daughter that hits herself in the face when she gets mad and gets really loud in public to get attention. i to am looking for ansewers. in your case, i was wondering have you had her tested for autisim. i have a friend whos son does that and he is autistic. i hope you find help soon. i know what it feels like to love your child but not like them and thats an awful feeling.
sencerly,
ona27
Thank you for your very candid post. I am sure it couldn't have been easy for you to have to relive all that to try and help me. I really do appreciate it. I have been thinking about what you said and if things get that bad I will do as you suggested. Anything is better that nothing at this point. Our ped dr is sending us to a eval person (March appoint) cause to see a specialist around here it could take up to 6 months to get her in (that I would not be able to wait for). I spoke to her teacher who is very happy we are going for help (we are not the only ones having problems with her) but I want to know if her teacher was having so many problems why they didn't referr her to their child study team? I know academically she is doing great but they could still get her evaled due to behavior. It wouldn't take this long to get things moving that's for sure.
I feel very sorry for you and I hope you are able to get help for your family soon. I think you should call a Crises Intervention line in your area. I had to do that back in November when I was coming apart and I did not think I could wait the three weeks to see somebody. I called my county health dept and they sent someone to the house right away and got me some resources to talk to quickly. I can understand not being able to think about getting through the next 24 hours without help, let alone several weeks. For my situation, it was ME who needed immediate help in order to deal with the situation-- and I got myself some IMMEDIATE help, which allowed me the strength to wait a few weeks to take care of my child.
Additionally, you said you can't see someone til March. If the situation is that desperate, maybe you could go to an ER locally with your daughter to get more urgent treatment, or call her regular dr and be persistent indicating that the problem is urgent and that her own safety is at risk.
Additionally, you said you can't see someone til March. If the situation is that desperate, maybe you could go to an ER locally with your daughter to get more urgent treatment, or call her regular dr and be persistent indicating that the problem is urgent and that her own safety is at risk.
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