How do I react to a girl frequently pooping outdoors

[Guinsfan]

My daughter hangs out with a neighborhood girl that for some reason frequently poops outside. There have been 3 of these incidents. This girl is 11 years old! And she does this in a small patch of trees that is only 3 minuets from her house. It’s not like they’re in deep woods with a bathroom emergency. I don’t know if I should tell my daughter to stay away from her or what. This girls mother is a complete loon so I guess it’s not totally surprising. Talking to her would be a problem...she would deny it and accuse me of smearing her and her family...like I said a complete loon. Talk to the school? Ignore it? Keep my kids away from her? At a loss on this one?

[Guinsfan]

Thanks for the responses. Allow me to give a little more detail. This recent event was the third that I am aware of. The first was at the end of summer last year. This girl was mad at the neighborhood boys (kid stuff) so she decided to “get back at them” by pooping in the middle of their fort in the woods. Basically a pile of sticks and dirt that the boys call their fort. She encouraged my daughter and another girl  to do the same which she swears she didn’t. Another adult neighbor actually witnessed the second time which was in her own backyard which was a few weeks before the fort incident. The third time was the most recent in the same area as the fort. Most disturbing is that she doesn’t seem to mind an audience. It’s not like she ducks away privately in some bushes. The adult neighbor said it was smack in the middle of their back yard when she witnessed it. I was somewhat reluctant to believe my daughter to be honest, but after an adult confirmed... I told my daughter to hang out with her less and less and no more trips to the woods. As I said this girl is 11!

[Sandman2]

So there were two times rather close together at the end of the summer and then one more time 6 or 7 months later?  And, of course, there could have been more times I guess.  And, I guess that she could have been 10 when the stuff happened at the end of summer?

Frankly, that is not enough of a pattern (at that age) to worry me too much.  But, it is a bit unusual.  I think what you have done is appropriate.  I would probably be more concerned about her wanting to "get back" at the guys, then how she chose to get back.   But, I don't know what the boys did.  In fact, there is a lot I/we don't know.  So it would not hurt to monitor the situation a bit.

[Sandman2]

Well, what may seem like 3 min. to you could seem like an eternity to her.  When ya gotta go, ya gotta go.  And there might be some medical reason behind this, or at least a temporary medical reason.  

Frankly, I would have a talk about hygiene with your  daughter just so she is not tempted.  Then I would get a packet of moist wipes and see if she would be comfortable giving these to her friend.

[specialmom]

I've not heard of this kind of issue.  If it were me, I'd try to stay uninvolved.  Do you think the child is safe and cared for (with a loon for a mother and all)?  Running plumbing in their home?  (as in, if their toilets don't work, pooping outside would be preferable than doodie in the house festering as an 11 year old tries to figure out the proper way of disposing it).  in general, I'd ask a mom about it but you seem dead set that this would go bad.  How is it that YOU spot her doing that?