7 year old urinating and defecating in bedroom

[Annabelle106]

My 7 year old step grand daughter has been urinating in her bed room. She has done this for several months to the point of ruining a mattress. The mattress was replaced and plastic bed cover applied. The child removed the plastic bed cover and continues to urinate on the bed. (She purposely pulls her pants down and does this.) Also urinating on the floor and in the closet. She now has starting to defecate in her room, hiding it and smearing it on the walls. She has no answer for her behavior, other than one time telling her father that she did it because he didn't tuck her in bed. I don't understand why any child would do this. She has also urinated at school at her desk because she didn't want to get up from what she was doing. She has also wet herself on the school bus and the other children know it and make fun of her but she seems to enjoy this attention.

[Mumof3girls2015]

Me and my partner have been dealing with this for almost 5 years. It started when she lived with her biological dad for attention. The soiling stopped until about 3 months ago but the wetting has been mainly on than off the whole time. My daughter is fast approaching 9. She seems to enjoy if she's done it and we haven't found it. (She sings around and bounces around the house with glee) we've had her checked medically as she had one kidney removed aged 1 and they found nothing wrong with her.

You name it, we've tried it. Ignored it, shouted, sat and talked, countless appointments but the older she's getting the worse it's getting. We have two other children and she shares the same room as my 4 year old until we move but the smell gets so bad the 4 year old has to share our bed as it gets on her chest. We're taking her back to the doctors on Friday as me and my partner are at breaking point. If her behaviour doesn't change in the next 6 months my partner and two younger children will be moving into another home

[Mumof3girls2015]

Me and my partner have been dealing with this for almost 5 years. It started when she lived with her biological dad for attention. The soiling stopped until about 3 months ago but the wetting has been mainly on than off the whole time. My daughter is fast approaching 9. She seems to enjoy if she's done it and we haven't found it. (She sings around and bounces around the house with glee) we've had her checked medically as she had one kidney removed aged 1 and they found nothing wrong with her.

You name it, we've tried it. Ignored it, shouted, sat and talked, countless appointments but the older she's getting the worse it's getting. We have two other children and she shares the same room as my 4 year old until we move but the smell gets so bad the 4 year old has to share our bed as it gets on her chest. We're taking her back to the doctors on Friday as me and my partner are at breaking point. If her behaviour doesn't change in the next 6 months my partner and two younger children will be moving into another home

[James_Gosling]

I cant believe what I am reading.....
I have been facing this problem with my kid for last several years. I feel sorry for myself for not looking up till now.

Here is my story. My son (8 yr old) has been diagnosed with ADHD when he was 5. Along with rest of the symptoms, he has been peeing everywhere in the house - in front of the bathroom, near the closet, next to his own bed, in the center of the living area, pretty much everywhere. When his younger brother complained about, I didn't believe it. But I once caught him red-handed. Last week one of his friend saw him relieving himself near the bushes of his house. Today another neighbor saw him doing the same too. I really felt let down and started blaming me for not teaching him basic hygiene and self respect. (I am a single dad). Now, at least I know that I am not alone. Neither he nor me are to be blamed. Thanks every one!
I will soon be talking to his psychiatrist.

[specialmom]

So, true confessions here.  When I stayed at my grandparents house, I did something similar in my room there rather than going down tot he bathroom.  The issue was convenience and that I was a little scared to leave the room in the dark.  

Now, that is a simple answer but something I'm wondering if you have any ideas about.  If the bathroom is super close by, if things are well lit for her, if she could be scared at night at all, if she is waking in time to make it all the way to the bathroom, etc.  

Those types of things at that age can contribute to what you describe.

good luck

[mullberrymom]

Similar issue with one of my daughters using the trashcan in the bathroom instead of the toilet. I'm not sure which. They are both honor roll students, have a stay at home mom, both parents in the home, we don't yell or spank, use no blame no shame communication and are very open, I breastfed and practice attachment parenting and am always available to them. I'm completely at a loss with what's going on.

[CrisisMom]

I have a 13 year old stepson who does the same and he is not neglected. We had him in counselling for 18 months, with little to no improvement. The only answer he gives is, " I don't know." He also steals from friends, neighbors, his classmates, us at home constantly for which he is given a consequence. That is when I notice the urinating is most prevalent. It would appear it is his way of "getting even" with us for consequencing his poor decisions. We honestly have tried every level of logic, different kinds of punishments and he is getting worse. What we get from it is that he does what he wants, no fear of repercussions...no concern for what trouble/embarrassment or frustration it causes the other parties involved. Recently we found 2 butcher knives between his mattress and box spring... we've had to install an alarm on his bedroom door that is turned on once he goes in for the evening. It is hopefully a safety measure that will give us enough notice that he is on the move before he does something far more dangerous than peeing or stealing.... :/