I did not mean give her up! I would never. EVER. I meant, give up , as in just can't take anymore. I am overwhelmed.
the counseling was as recent as 6 months ago.
she does not have a father in her life, but has a great grandfather who thinks the world of my children and is a great role model.
I have greatly considered that she is doing this for attention. Because a lot of times she makes comments like " you love ( siblings name ) more than me. " " i wish you and I could do more things, just you and me"
I don't think I show favoritism, but her sibling is still a toddler and is very dependant on me in more ways.
I am going to try to make my daughter realize just how special she is to me and how loved she is and see if that helps matters at all. If it does, I am going to guess that she is reaching out in any way possible. She was an only child for 5 and a half years so ....
Thanks for all of your advice.
In rereading your post, I think this is a desperate struggle to be the center of attention.
It sounds like maybe whole family counseling may be the way to go - she seems to have clearly found a way to grab your focus and hold it for hours and hours on end.
mom, I don't think this is a product of one episode of molestation by a young teenage boy. Kids tend to get over one episode with no problem.
You don't say what your circumstances are, but you have another child and aren't married - could that man have had an ongoing sexual relationship with her?
Is her biological father mentally ill, or is there mental illness in his family?
I think many many adult women have experienced a single episode, or a couple random episodes of sexual inappropriateness in their childhood and they don't act like your daughter is acting.
Best wishes.
Is there any chance of having her father in her life? She may be desperately seeking attention.
If you took her to counseling at, what, age 6? maybe things were OK enough then, but now there has been some time passed and possibly more has surfaced. Have you taken her to counseling recently?
What do you mean "I don't want to give up on her?" Do you mean, give her up? I would certainly get her back into counseling and see if that helps, before you try anything like that.
Go along the first time, even if it is to her (children's) therapist, and see if possibly you need someone to talk to also.
Good luck, get her in soon.