My 3yo daughter still soiling her pants after a yr of being toilet training

[kristy_46]

My daughter is 3 almost 4yo and she is still soiling her pants on many times a day she has been toilet trained for over a year, i have tried absoulty everything from encouragement, rewards, punishment, talking to her and nothing has worked, im seriously at my wits end!!! Ive seen our local doctors and they all keep saying she will do it whens shes ready but really enoughs enough she is a very bright child, i dont understand why she continues to do it.
She is happy to stay in it and it doesnt bother her. Somebody help PLS!!

[littlebit667]

We cannot control if a child eats, speaks or goes to the bathroom.  You have lost that battle before you even start.  They have the power, once we get that thru our heads life can get a bit easier.  The more you make a deal of it, the harder it will be to get her to change/stop.  Accidents do happen.  Do not punish her.  Is there something in her world that has changed?  Is there a new baby, new marriage, new or different anything that could be bothering her??

[skepticalpeach]

Just listen to what her doctor says. If there was an issue they would catch it. Just stop making a big deal of it. NEVER punish a child for having an accident. Only punish them if they pee on the floor on purpose because they are angry. Once you relax about it she will too and then everyone will be happy. All kids are different and some don't potty train as quickly as others. It's pretty normal to have a accidents at 3 and 4 years old.