9 year old strange behaviour change

[Jitterbugs]

My 9 year old daughter has changed in the last 2 months. She was a normal outgoing child who loved taking part in things and was very happy and always smiling.
She appears to have become a little withdrawn and doesn't want to do as much as she did.
She started complaining about tummy pain whenever we were going somwhere she didn't want to go.
I read about child anxiety and even took her to the GP who confirmed all was well.
She doesn't want to be a part of choir any more. She doesn't want to go to Ballet dancing anymore. Likewise, other activities she used to love.
The thing is, she knows something is not right and wants to be better and back to normal.
"I don't know what's wrong and I am trying!"
She swears nothing happened to make her feel like this.
She says she has felt this way for a while but didn't tell us because she didn't want to worry us.
We have been making her carry on as normal and face it head on..... She complains but does carry on...
It's wearing us down...

Please help....


Liam

[mollie38]

We are having the same problems with our 8 year old granddaughter, she used to be so popular in school at one time  but the last few months she doesn't seem to have any friends except for a boy she started nursery with they have always played together and  its like  no one else is around when they are together ,all her other friends seem to have disappeared she has lost interest in her school work, and she to went to ballet lessons and now they have stopped, her grades have gone down, she just does not want to seem to do anything, and she seems unhappy all the time. we have tried talking to her but she just gets so  angry when you try to talk to her she lives in her own little dream world. She is not getting bullied at school so we are at a loss as how to help her.  She also complains of pains in her tummy my daughter has had her to the doctors but said she was fine,

[margypops]

Yes definatly get any pain checked out first with your Doctor .

[Encephalomalcia]

Kids nowadays are going through puberty very young, sometimes starts at 9.  My step-daughter started getting her period at 10.  She could be starting puberty and going through hormone changes.  Ask more questions about the pain in her stomach, where it is upper or lower.  Pain in stomach is concerning if not puberty.  

[margypops]

What is wearing you down? her complaining? its as simple as this, dont feed into it, the more you focus on her behavior the more it will become , back off and let her feel what she wants and do what she wants , soon she wont know what she wants and will come to you to give her feedback, so let it go.

[CG24]

You might want to consider depression. Since she know she feels different she would probably respond well to a therapist. When I was little I had stomach aches and didn't want to socialize and sid everything I could to stay at home.  She may grow out of it but nowadays there are so many great professionals that could help return her to her old self.
Also - by any chance is someone bullying her at school?
Best of luck.