Aa
Am i a bad person?
Long story short. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He has 2 children (10 and 12), and we have one together (6 months). His 10 year old constantly poops himself. Doesn't care where he is at or who knows, BUT hides his clothes EVERYWHERE? These children didn't know what it was like to have a "real" mother in their life, they had no rules and "daddy"played best friend, UNTIL i came along. They have SIMPLE normal human rules. (Eat at the table, have a bed time, don't hit your brother, ect.) It's been almost two years and the 10 year can't follow rules when attention is not all about HIM. Completely acts up when i have a friend or family over. (Really good, and listens most of the time, UNTIL attention is OFF him.) Anyways, back to the real subject: the 10 year will leave trails off dried poop (that has fell out of his pants) all over the floor. We have literally tried EVERYTHING from punishments, rewards, cleaning his own pants, to doctors. NOTHING WORKS. I have dealt with this for 2 years. IS IT WRONG OF ME TO TELL MY BOYFRIEND, that i will be taking my 6 month old and leaving when my child starts to crawl, because i will NOT give my child an opportunity to pick up a 10 year olds poop and EAT it ESPECIALLY since there is absolutely no explanation to him doing this? Doctors say he is fine. I WILL do what is in the best interest of my child.
Oops didn't finish. The fact that he's hiding his clothing is a sign that he is hiding himself.
If he were pooping himself on purpose, as an act of aggression against you, he would be smearing the poop and also cutting up your clothing and couches.
It's unlikely, despite what 15 doctors have said, that he can control this.
If he were pooping himself on purpose, as an act of aggression against you, he would be smearing the poop and also cutting up your clothing and couches.
It's unlikely, despite what 15 doctors have said, that he can control this.
It sounds like he has encopresis, that doctors miss routinely for some unknown reason.
I don't mean to be picky, but do you literally mean he's been to 15 doctors who are confused about why this is happening?
If he's having hard turds that are hard and formed enough to fall out of his clothing, that's something that's not just "nothing".
His behavior of demanding all the attention is typical of a child who hasn't had enough attention to mature, which would be the case, if he's never had a mother until you came along 2 years ago. He hasn't developed properly - like an orphan.
Anyway, the symptoms of encopresis are a history of early childhood history of constipation that stretches out the colon, and continued constipation issues. Since you probably don't have any way of knowing if he had early childhood constipation, I say go with it and treat him as if he has encopresis.
Best wishes.
I don't mean to be picky, but do you literally mean he's been to 15 doctors who are confused about why this is happening?
If he's having hard turds that are hard and formed enough to fall out of his clothing, that's something that's not just "nothing".
His behavior of demanding all the attention is typical of a child who hasn't had enough attention to mature, which would be the case, if he's never had a mother until you came along 2 years ago. He hasn't developed properly - like an orphan.
Anyway, the symptoms of encopresis are a history of early childhood history of constipation that stretches out the colon, and continued constipation issues. Since you probably don't have any way of knowing if he had early childhood constipation, I say go with it and treat him as if he has encopresis.
Best wishes.
I'm sorry, i didn't read your question correctly. Also sorry for how my post may sound all jumbled, i get anxiety attacks when it comes to this matter. He has been to number different specialist's, therapist's, you name it. We've even had the school call CPS acting like we do nothing about it. It's been a very stressful 2 years. Let me try to clear a few things up.The 10 year old DOESN'T eat his own poop. (He is my "step-son"). I have one child who is 6 months old. I do not want my 6 month old to start crawling and picking up and eating his brother's poop (the 10 year old's poop). Espeically since about 15 different doctor's saying that there is no reason he shouldn't be using the toilet.
He has worn pull-ups and everything. Different Doctor's say there is no reason he shouldn't be pooping in the toilet. Also i didn't mean the 10 year old is eating his poop, i mean i don't want my child which is 6 months (about to start crawling) to be eating his older brother's poop or have a chance too. I want to do what is in the best interest in the child. I would feel like a bad mother for giving my child (6 month old) the opportunity, when i can just leave and not have MY child around it.
No, you should not give an ultimatum like that. It's not fair because the child will not understand why you left. It certainly won't help the situation at all, in fact it will probably make it worse. Have you tried putting him in diapers/pullups? This would solve the problem immediately for a short term fix.
What type of doctors have you brought him to? Why would any doctor say nothing is wrong when a 10 year old is eating poop. That doesn't seem right. It sounds like he might have pica. Find a developmental pediatrician to speak to about this. Be persistent and don't give up. Just because a new child is coming into the picture doesn't mean the older ones don't matter anymore.
What type of doctors have you brought him to? Why would any doctor say nothing is wrong when a 10 year old is eating poop. That doesn't seem right. It sounds like he might have pica. Find a developmental pediatrician to speak to about this. Be persistent and don't give up. Just because a new child is coming into the picture doesn't mean the older ones don't matter anymore.
Have an Answer?
You are reading content posted in the Child Behavior Community
Fearing autism, many parents aren't vaccinating their kids. Can doctors reverse this dangerous trend?
Is a gluten-free diet right for you?
We answer your top questions about the flu vaccine.
Learn which over-the-counter medicines are safe for you and your baby
Yummy eats that will keep your child healthy and happy
Healing home remedies for common ailments
