Can you please help me?

[patsyburrell]

My husband and I have been married over 20 years and we have a 18 year old daughter and 14 year old son.  My husband never give my daughter the time of day.  Her and I have always been so close.  It''s all different now, she never wants to be around me and it appears she hates the sight of me.  My husband has been going to her bedroom constantly laying on her bed and talking.  Then of course he says he fell asleep but this is now an everynight situation and now he wants her to go everywhere with him.  Their whole relationship is different.  Could he possibly be having sex with his own daughter?  What do you think is really going on?


This discussion is related to Sleeping in bed with mom.

[Risatoejamma]

I don't know why the camera thought didn't occur earlier. And how could you not be sure if something was going on without checking it out? Did you try listening by the door? Entering by surprise with an excuse to bring something or check on them? If you tried this was the door locked? It doesn't doesn't sound right. I would definitely be suspicious too, but could there be some other reason for this to be going on? A divorce was mentioned in here earlier, that maybe the kids are being sided. He should NOT be falling asleep in her room every night. How long has this been going on that you didn't check anything out? And how is your relationship with your husband that you think he might be a child molestor, and to your own children? I hope you checked this out as soon as possible and don't take any ******** excuses. Whatever's going on it doesn't sound good and it needs to be solved NOW. Or it did this thread was old. Hope everybody is safe.

[robina333]

Yes patsy i do think your husband is having some type of inappropriate relationship with your daughter  due to the fact you said yall use to be close now she dont want to look at you.  THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED TO MY SISTER AND MY MOM .  MY ELDEST SISTER PULLED A 12 GAUGE SHOT GUN ON MY MOM. I WAS 7 YRS OLD .  I REMEMBER BECAUSE I WAS PLAYING JACKS IN THE LIVING ROOM AND MY MOM WAS IN THE KITCHEN.   SHE SAID I WAS CALLING HER WHILE I WAS PLAYING JACKS. I DONT REMEMBER CALLING HER . She said as she came from the kitchen to the living room she spotted my sister in the mirror on the wall holding the shot gun . I looked up saw my mom she had her finger over her mouth like shusss. So i was quiet.  Then i saw my sister the rifle was hidden down by her side.  I couldnt see it. AT THAT POINT MY MOM DUCKED INTO THE CLOSET THAT WAD UNDER THE STAIRS.  My sister didnt see her and proceded to the kitchen where she thought my mom was. MY MOM CAME OUT OF THE CLOSET BEHIND HER I COULD SEE THE GUN. MY MOM HIT HER SO HARD OVER THE TOP OF HER HEAD THAT I FOUNTAIN OF BLOOD CAME OUT SHE NEVER KNEW WHAT HIT HER.  YOU KNOW OLDER LADIES WORE THOSE SOLID WOOD PLATFORM SHOES.  So be careful. MY SISTER HAD A BABY FOR HIM HER OWN FATHER.  mom and her never really had a relationship after that.  They tried to keep my neice a secret my sister passed the child off as her husbands.  She was married ti her husband when she did this and she had already had my neice.  SHE HATED MOM.  IT WASNT THAT I THINK DAD POISENED HER AGAINST MOM. I THINK IT WAS MORE MOM WAS IN THE WAY WHO KNOWs JUST BECAREFUl.  My sister is gay now and so sad my niece passed a few years ago. I really loved her God be with you . I pray for you and your family. By the way my mom lived a full life passed at 81 .

[Maidensolo]

Isn't it amazing what these men can do to a family? Just so they can plant their thing someplace new. This urge must be uncontrollable for some men. My Mother was raped repeatedly by an uncle who was supposed to be "protecting" her from her drunken father.                                           She became such a damaged adult that she raised us girls in a way we could hardly bare to get through.                          Mom doted on my sister continually until her teen years. Then she accused her of being promiscuous even though she only dated one boy in high school.                     I was not allowed to leave the house at all except to attend school. I grew up alone with no friends,no going on no dates,and never having had a birthday party in my entire life. I only watched my sister's from peeking around the corner.                             I was put in classical piano lessons with a woman who trains only those who plan to have a performance career in Chopin. It kept me busy and I fell in love with it. I practiced 6 hours a day sometimes. At age 15 my teacher told my mom I was ready and my mom asked ready to do what? My teacher said go to New York to Contest to see how I place and start my professional career. My mom looked at this woman​ like she  was crazy and said that I took piano for pleasure. We both just fell to pieces.                            I left for college shortly after---never having made a decision for myself in my Life. I got married so I would not have to return home for summer break. I couldn't face the abuse. And there had been plenty​ of it. All her anger poured out on me.   In adulthood I made sure I got PLENTY of help so it stopped with me.I mean years of help. My sister did not. She is ridden with many type 2 personality disorders and is quite ill. It continued​ on to the neglect of her children and her murderous rage toward me. ----just part time of her disorders. I have to stay far away from her.            It's amazing, is it not?      

[Maidensolo]

I wish I knew how this story was playing out.

[Bobbidylan]

OMG... He is definitely trying to do something inappropriate with your daughter, if he hasn't already!!!  If you ask me,a man  sleeping in the same bed as his teenage daughter is definitely a warning sign!!!  You need to act on this immediately  

[KateTX]

Dads don't ingore their kids then all of a sudden spend time with them and not alone and not in their beds! She's too old to be reading bed time stories to, why aren't you in there too, why are they alone and why not all together as a family on a regular basis.  Teenagers don't spend time with their dads alone in their bedroom by their own choice. Any change in behavior or your child is a warning sign that something isn't right. If your. It willing to immediately protect your child then you need to ensure they are not alone together. Your daughter does not want this attention from him!

[Caylenncloud]

He definitely is. Please take care of that. Not healthy at all

[MingLingg]

Honestly before jumping to conclusion on a serious accusation like that I would ask yourself as a parent are you the problem. As young teens grow older they tend to grow apart from their mothers and cling to others. Do you see your daughter as competition ? How is your relationship with your spouse to where you feel you married a child molester. ? And lastly did you approach the situation with both parties present ? I suggest counseling.

[Sabella1S]

MingLingg has a point. My mother viewed me as competition from day one and tricked my dad into having two more kids she knew he had no interest in. She hated how close we were and resented when my dad finally showed my sister affection years later out of guilt for being such a **** to her.

My mom accused my dad of all sorts of ******** lies she made up about him and me because she thought our close relationship was nefarious. When he finally felt guilty enough for how my sister was treated she made the same ******** lies up about him and my sister.

I've always been super close to my dad, he knows everything about my life. It's not always what someone jumps to. Sometimes, there is a reason for a close bond between a father and daughter.

With me and my dad it was because I was the only child he wanted and the only child he planned for. And because I was abused viciously by my mother for that reason.