Child molestation

[Juls7]

I have a 7 year old son who said his older brother pulls his pants down while he is sleeping but cant tell if he has done anything to him except he feels wet on his rear at night and his rectum is itching alot now. Is is possible he has been molested by his brother? and could his older brother has been molested by another person also because he has turned to drugs recently the past 2 years, we have him in rehab at this time since January 18th and he gets out March 17th, can you help me understand if this is really happening? You really dont want to think this is happening in your family but also the teacher has told me my 7 year  old is acting out more in school and not paying attention and he is acting out at home also, but we thought it could be because we have sent his older brother away to get help with drugs I have had the councelor at school talk to him about his brother going away but nothing to do about maybe molestation

[mperry1369]

yes your oldest one is being molested. he is not telling you everything most kids won't you are lucky that he even told you that much. i would not let your oldest son  around your younger one untill you can get your youngest one in counciling and don't pressure your son to talk to you about most likely he will clam up and not tell you anything let him come to you. your oldest one was most likely molested when he was younger and that probably cuased him to go to drugs. you need to find that out too it is possible that the person that mollested your oldest one is someone you know that spends time with your son. i was mollested by my brother so i know what it's like i told my mom but after she kept pushing me to talk to her i didn't i felt like it was my fault and i went to drugs and alcohol your oldest one needs to get help not only with the drugs but also with the abuse i did not find out that my brother was molested by my dad untill recently so just keep your eyes open and listen to both your boys without making them talk they will on there own time when they feel they can good luck to you and i'm sorry

[SL345]

Yes, it is definitely possible that your older son has been sexually abusing your younger son while he's sleeping. However, it's likely that your 7 year old is not telling all the details if that's all he's reported to you. If he feels wet on his rear at night, he's probably feeling a lot more than that at night. You need to ask the tough questions and you need to ask both children. If your older one has done this, he has a problem. Drugs may have been a factor. He may have been abused, too. If he was abused, that may have played a part in him turning to drugs. As scary as it is, you need to open this up to the professionals who are working with your kids. It's difficult but find people you trust to help you with this. Contact STOP IT NOW in Vermont for further information and direction about sexual abuse by your son (1-888-PREVENT).

[rilbrianne]

Oh my goodness, how old is the older child?   I ask because if he is still young, you will certainly need to protect him from a possible abuser.   If he's older - well, he may be liable if he's abusing the younger child.  You will probably have a hard time finding out if the older child was molested, unless he's eager to say if and by whom.  I know it must be hard to think that your older one was abused, and that your younger one is possibly being abused now... but by all means, protect the younger one at least if not the older one as well.   Find out what's going on, and I know you won't want to hear this but report it.  No one should be sexually abused, by a stranger or family, doesn't matter who it is.  

Your 7 yr old needs to see a counselor - specifically for sexual abuse.  But you know it will be reported, if not by you, then by the counselors.  

If it isn't "rape" by the older child, it could possibly be that he is ejaculating on the younger child - which I would guess might cause itching.  It's still sexual abuse though, no matter which of the scenarios took place.