HElp???

sO TONIGHT I CAUGHT MY 4 YEAR OLD NIECE TOUCHING AND MORE LIKE MASTERBATING (masturbating) MY 3 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER MY FIRST  REACTION WAS TO PUNISH YELL AND SEND HER TO BED IM NOW SITTING HERE TRYING TO UNDERSTAND WHY THIS IS HAPPENING ITS NOT THE FIRST TIME MY NIECE HAS DONE SOMETHING LIKE THIS I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO WHICH IS WHY IM ON THIS FORUM???? I HONESTLY DONT KNOW IF THIS FALLS UNDER COURIOSITY OR SOME THING MORE TO BE CONCERNED ABOUT

[margypops]

By your post it sounded more purposeful than curiosity, I would speak to her mom as its possible someone has done similar to your niece, I wouldnt let them be alone together .Talk to the 3 year old and tell her she should come to you if anyone does it to her .

[AdultHelper]

Hi worried_momii. It is normal for children to masturbate, and or explore body parts. It's nothing that you should really be worried about unless she starts to have sex, talking about it with other people, or masturbating with someone else even if it's a girl. Explain to her that masturbating can be bad, and that you really should only masturbate when you are getting ready for sex and that you are ready to take the responsibility that comes with it. If you have any questions feel free to ask.

                                           Sincerely,
                                                        AdultHelper

[mcclure223]

There are huge red flags when kids act out like this on other kids...show me urs and ill show u mine is normal but masterbating (masturbating) another child leads me to believe she is mimicing what someone else is doing to her...keep Ur eyes open n talk to her.mom if u can. Good luck

[margypops]

I agree with mcclure especially when it is an older child perpetrating the behavior on a younger child and I would say the older child  has learned the behavior ..