this is on another thread also
Seems like Normal behavior from a loving child, perhaps explain to him he can stroke your arm but it isnt a good idea to stroke any part of some friend, and address why the Parent or anyone would call him a pervert! Has affection gone to the dogs aswell!!This is a 4year old not a 14yearold.
I can see that too now that you mention it- and the adults went wild---- or maybe the teacher even said "pervert" in a tongue and cheek manner hoping to blow the mother off and ended up encouraging the chat- then didn't know how to get out of the counseling session- so even all this has me concerned because this poor boy thinks he is bad ofr just being a cuddler I do not for a minute believe he meant anything inappropriate- I hope he has forgotten about it by now and I hope the teacher has grown a brain cell or three-
tell me it has all been forgotten- please!
It makes me wonder what the girl has been exposed to? Or maybe her mother has given her the birds and bees talk already, and at 4 she is taking everything her mother said and just talking to her mother about what "may" be inappropriate. I know that my step-daughters mother has already explained the basics of sex to their girls who are 5 and 7, but at the time they were 4 and 6.
Right- a toucher is a toucher and at age FOUR- come on!!!!!- Age seven or eight is considered the age of accountability and a well formed conscience and that is if the behavior is 'known' to be inappropriate- this kid had no clue/ I have had preschoolers inadvertently touch a breast- for a split second I feel odd til I remember they are babies- I move their hand and lovingly smile and redirect them- that's IT! I have had others reach down and touch a body part while I am diapering- it's odd for a split second then I remember they are BABIES!
and you know what I cannot really even think of a way to explain inappropriate-ness here with a four year old except to try the idea of no touching where a bathing suit goes- ???? Don't feel bad that you never discussed it either- now you are starting to second guess yourself as a good mother- I am sure you are a wonderful mother- please don't do this to yourself- I am sorry you are going thru this and I am sure your child is a delight!
I definitly say the school blew this out of porportion. Like you said he is four. My son did that to me once(think he learned it from his dad and girlfriend at the time) I corrected him and told him it was not appropriate behavior He hasnt done it since