How do I talk to my 6yr old about Masterbation?

[SYoungs83]

My husband and I do see this as a normal behavior. He was under his bed when no one else was in his room with one of my daughters barbies. In the past he used to kiss the barbies and we used to joke with him about it. Never telling him that it was wrong. I just want to know what to tell him about the barbies I mean my three kids share a room so its not like I can keep them away from him or lol get him his own (please no one say that). As i said we see this as a healthy behavior but what do I say? Back ground on me(mom) I was raped by my father when i was a child and almost dies from the blood loss my older sister was in the same boat with my father as i was only she was younger. I do not think this is the case with him as I am waaaaayyy over protective. if some one walks in while i am changing my youngest daughters diapers and looks over i freak out. So I just dont want to make my son ashamed and I think i might with my history, I want my kids to not have to think about those things.Thank you

[lovechild6996]

i would confront him adout it .and ask him where he lurn to do that from because a 6year old would do that .if they didn,t see it some where;.

[SYoungs83]

Im sorry I didnt give more detail on that. He was under his bed with his pants down around his thighs and I was about to walk in to check on him and saw him rubbing his sisters babies butt on his penis.

[Sandman2]

My question is how do you know what he was doing with the Barbie.  Boys of that age don't masterbate unless someone has showed them how.  He may have been doing something kinda weird or nothing at all.  Do you know what he was doing or are you just guessing?  6 year old boys are kinda weird, and it could have been one of a bunch of different things - or maybe he just wanted a quiet place (with two other kids in the room, that makes some sense).

[Sully74]

Sorry about your childhood.  You father obviously was a very disturbed man.  I hope you pressed charges against him as an adult to keep him from hurting any one else.  That kind of person will seek out and prey on victim after victim until they are stopped.  

As for your son, there is nothing wrong with him, he is being a 6 year old boy.  Tell him or have his father tell him that it is NOT appropriate behavior to play with dolls that way.  It is perfectly normal for him to explore himself at that age.  6 years are curios about themselves and the world around them.  That is why little boys and girls play "doctor," with each other.  Nothing harmful or damaging really occurs from that either.  It isn't vicious or malicious in nature when a couple second graders see each other naked.  It is not like they are looking for a sexual experience and it won't turn into one either at that age.  Just curiosity.  It will pass as they learn about modesty.

[aid821]

Telling him not to play with barbies would only be reinforcing the gender stereotypes that are present in the world today, i probably wouldn't suggest that. I understand you are protective with your children due to events that occured during your childhood, and do agree with you that it is exploratory behaviour.

It may be that this is his way of showing affection and don't really think it was in a sexual way. Again i agree with you in regards to what he was doing was wrong and making him feel ashamed, i think he was just merely expressing himself.

Perhaps sit back and keep an eye on him and see if it persists, if it does, then maybe it's time to have a talk and mention that they are to play with, and if it doesn't, then maybe his curiousity has been satisfied. :)

[Liquid4444]

Take the barbie away and leave him alone. Tell him boys do not play with dolls. It appears he is doing everything else right. Hiding while masturbating. It might help if his dad tells him this about dolls. He might feel ashamed of posessing the doll if his dad took it away from him. Everything else is normal. He just likes playing with his penis because it feels good. The doll has to go. Maybe you can think of a few othe ways to remove the dolls with out being to abrubt! :)