I'm at my wits end. My 7 year old boy pees his pants (small amounts) every single day, multiple times a day. When I ask him why, he says things like, "I was too lazy.", or "I didn't want to stop doing (whatever it was he was doing)." I've taken him to a pediatric urologist, back when he was 4 and still doing this. They said he would just have to outgrow it. I've now taken him to our family practitioner and had him checked out for UTI's. He did have trace amounts of blood in his urine- but tested negative for an infection. The only explanation I can think of for that is that he does try to hold his urine all day long, and pees his pants in order to let off just enough pressure, so he doesn't have to go to the bathroom.
I've tried talking it out with him, letting him know that we love him and won't be mad at all if he asks to go to the bathroom, telling him repeatedly that he is a big boy now and too old to do this. Last year, I started a calendar where we marked dry days and wet days, and had rewards for staying dry for a week, and bigger rewards for staying dry for an entire month. He earned his reward for staying dry for a month last year, so I KNOW he can do it! He's now relapsed, after more talks, and trying to get to the bottom of WHY he does this- and him REPEATEDLY telling me that he CAN feel it, that he CHOOSES to ignore it- I've tried taking away privileges for wet days, and taking away his favorite toys for wetting. I'm now at a complete loss as to what to do, and this week I have started giving him 2 spanks for being wet when I check him at the end of the day. I hate doing this, and one would think that he is seeking negative attention- but he dreads his punishments. I remind him to go potty all day long, and when I ask him when it was that he wet his pants, he can tell me exactly when he did it, and it is always when he is engaged in an activity he doesn't want to stop in order to go to the bathroom. This tells me he CAN feel it. For the longest time I thought he couldn't, but i just can't find any evidence to back that theory up! He's now 7 years old, wets all day long, and still needs a pull-up at night. I won't even bother tackling THAT problem, till we can get the daytime enuresis underhand. Please help!