Inappropriate touching at a 6 yr old sleepover

[Tgard40]

My 6 yr old son was at a sleepover with two other 6 yr old boys at a good friend’s house. Our friends came over to tell us one of the boys said our son had crawled into bed with him and was trying to “stick his penis in his but”. We talked to our son and he admitted to doing this and giggled. When asked where he got the idea from, he said our friend’s son, who is also 6, told him to do it. Neither of the other kids confessed to doing anything wrong. Our son is adamant that our friend’s son was also doing it. The parent of the third boy is freaking out like our son intentionally tried to molest her son. Our son is a sweet lovable kid who will do anything to make others laugh and he’s only 6yrs old. We talked to our son to be sure no one has ever done anything like this to him, we talked to him about inappropriate touching, as far as we know he has never been exposed to anything like this. We are very distraught and not sure what to do at this point.

[Spicychick]

I would like to correct my statement in my last post.  In the first sentence I wrote "most" parents, and I meant "some" parents.  I believe that MOST parents ARE responsible.

[Spicychick]

Why do most parents think it's ok for an older child to have easy access to porn!?!?  Especially when there are young children in the house?!  
5 ond 6 year old boys may be naturally curious about their body parts BUT NOT ABOUT SEX!  I find this to be very disturbing!  

Parents DO need to supervise their children (at any age)!  These children could be molested. If the parents are not aware of their little children watching porn, then it seems they are not aware of much else!

Step up and be a parent!

[margypops]

Parents could do with supervising their children more ,so many times we hear posts about abused children ,they are always in their rooms alone and left to do whatever they want, it would be good if children were aware of a parent around who looks in on them all the time, and in fact has them 'play in the living areas.Its always about what happens when the children are left to their own devices. Blocks on the PC and the TV even for older children, no porn for anyone .......

[youngmommy711]

I have a 5 year old son, that recently was in a bedroom with my 5 year old nifew, My oldest daughter had walk't in on them and caught them with there underwear down! When ask what they were doing, both did not want to say what they where doing. later on i got some of the qustion out, my nefiew had said that they were trying to have SEX. I askt him where he got that from, he told me his older brother, I askt if there was any touching between him and my son, he said no! my 5 year old son KNOWS good and bad touches, ive never been the one to hide anything from him, turns out that my newifew had told my brother that his penis was inside my son's mouth..... later on my son told me that it did happen and knew that is was a bad thing to do. my son has got into adult movies that i had taken away and we put up and away. Are they just being curiouse about their body parts?????  

[margypops]

so the 6 year old by himself went into an older brothers bedroom knew how to connect it up the found a porn site .....

[Tgard40]

You were all right. The source was an unlocked computer in their older sons room. I'm both relieved and sick to my stomach at the same time. It's been an overwhelming feeling of worry and failure for all of the parents invovled, A true eye openning experience. We've souht out professional help as well.
Thanks, This forum helped us clear the panic and focus but I hope I never have to use it again.....

[adgal]

I also have to chime in agreeing with the others.  One of these kids has either been molested or seen something obviously innapropriate.  I too agree that seeing a professional is a good idea.  Good luck to you.

[margypops]

I am apt to agree with Spicychick, I would say that they are copying it from somwhere maybe even porn they have seen .It maybe a good idea to check out who you have been leaving him alone with also the other boy who told your son to do it .,speak to his mom, get his Dad involved in asking him how ,why and where .

[Spicychick]

Also, I think you should take your son to a doctor to have him examined and talked to by a professional (just to be sure).  I would recommend that for the other boys parents as well.  
Best of luck to you!

[Spicychick]

I have to say that if my child was the 3rd child involved I would be very upset too.  If not your child than the other boy has been introduced to that behavior and that is very upsetting.  

What does the boys parents say (the one that gave him the idea)?  

Again, This is NOT a natural type of behavior from a 6 year old.   The children should not be punished, they are innocent,   however, one of them was introduced to this behavior and that is what I would be trying to fiqure out.  If you are sure your son is innocent then investigate the other boy (a child is being abused, step up).  An abused child is torchered for life and the molester needs to be locked up!  

Also, please keep a close eye on your son at all times.  You are the only one to protect him, and I would keep him away from that other boy and his family because if that boy is being abused at home, you do not want your child there to be abused also.  

Good luck!