Is my daughter telling me the truth

[mc875]

I have a 3 year old daughter who is now telling me that her pee pee has been touched by a friend of mine and my husbands. I want to believe her but this guy has been really good to us and has lived with us since she was born and has always been good with my kids. Every time they see him they yell Uncle and are always playing and jumping on him including my 3 year old. He lived with us the past couple of months and none of my kids ever mentioned to me about him being like this. Now it has been about 2 months since he had moved out and just today my daughter mentioned this to me. I asked her to repeat herself and she looked me like she was scared and said "uncle touched me right here". I was a little shocked and did not know exactly what to say. I asked if this was true because accusing someone of this they can be in big trouble. I then asked what she meant by him touching her she just stood there. I remember in psychology class they use dolls for kids her age to explain themselves so I told her to get her doll and show me. She then touched the babys private with her finger and started stroking it. I know my daughter can lie but then again how would she know any of that, all my kids watch are Disney Jr or Sprout. Now that I am thinking about it though my 2 year old was always complaining about her pee pee saying oww oww, so I thought it hurt her to pee or burned when she peed thinking maybe she had an infection, but since he has been gone i have not heard her complain about it anymore. I am concerned and want to go to the doctors and get them ex amend but I am scared that the doctor with think I am a bad mother for not knowing anything. I want to tell my husband what I just heard but afraid of what he will do if I tell him so I want to know the facts before saying anything to him. And my husband told he that guy is wanting to move back in when he is finished with his job and that is soon. So i need to know something soon. I am confused, scared and do not know what to do..!!

[gigi1114]

I'm very disappointed that you are more worried about what others will think of you, and your parenting, than you are at protecting your daughter.  Call the police now, and if you ever let that man move back in the house then you should be worried about what others think of you, because you would then you would be a terrible parent.  Start believing and protecting your daughter.  Do you even realize what your poor child has been through?! You know the truth, stop pretending you don't.  Everything in your question proves that.

[Lstrick0]

Please listen to your baby. Children dont comeup with this by themselves. My son told me something similar. After listening and asking very simple questions I discovered he had been molested by his cousin. There is such a pain in your heart but act on it. Get your child checked.  Get a Psychologist. Do it now before she feels she cannot trust anyone. Its hard but there is light at the end of the tunnel. My son trusts me like no other 12 yrs later. I took action. I protected him and I prosecuted. There is no greater love than a mothers love. Good luck.

[Saraiiaras]

You said uncle and daddie. Get your kids away from both. Go to child protection services and have their doctors seee the kids. It's hard to believe because you don't want to, but you need to. Your kids need their hero. They need mom to put away the bad people.

[dazzled17]

Hi there mc875, I was reading this today & as a mother & victim my heart broke for you reading this. This has got to be a parents worst nightmare! I did wonder what the outcome of this was & how you are coping now a few years down the track.
How are your daughters now?
Did the accused "uncle" ever admit or was charged with the accusations?
Have you seen or heard from him since?
You did the right thing & your girls now know that they can trust you & can come to you when they feel uneasy or apprehensive about something.
It is so sad that those we trust around our kids can also be those that we need to protect our kids from.

[ruayyum]

Don't ever allow him to come back to your house.Believe your children coz 3 year olds dont lie and her sister had same issues like you said.  Thank them and encourage them to tell you more and ask all your children wisely and calmly about it not like an interrogation. Then gather your facts and tell their dad. Don't bother about how nice that guy was molesters do that deliberately to gain children's trust. The other children are not talking coz they may be scared and may be he told them not to tell. Be wise and never allow him in your house again.

[HKris93]

The guy was my uncle which I had to live with for 5 years. Cps placed me there as a child so I had no choice.

[HKris93]

As a victim at age 5 I was confused as a child, no I never wanted him touching me in that way but I still loved him and so I guess I didnt see him as the bad guy until he started making me do things for him. At that age we learn to forgive and forget easier then we do at an older age. As I began to get older and realizing exactly what he was doing to me and him taking a step further in his molestation because my family never believed me, I began to have hatred towards him and my family because I felt like my family was letting this happen to me. The molestation finally stopped at age 14 and I learned to forgive him (never will forget but I did forgive) in his last four years of his life. I am now 23 and I will always have to live with what happened and no one can ever take that away from me. I will forever fear that my daughter may one day be a victim, but my daughter will always have me and at that age a child will not lie about something so serious. Please believe that baby.