I agree with the comment of not beleiving all the psychobabble...
Thing is, they want him to be succesfull, that is all. So what if they overanalyze. They are trying to help. I adopt a tactic of not being defensive - ever - support what they do, you can discuss if you do not agree. I e-mail with the teachers daily and always ask what I can do at home to help. Its is very much appreciated.
I love professionals who when they start on your "case" say "you know your son the best" because it is a good sign:)
That is, some professionals are so fond of talking and insist on giving me all the information that they happen to retain in their brain during med school, however, information that is not particularly relevant to the subject (my son's behaviors).
Find the one who listens....And does not resort to drugs first thing
Hiya again,
One word of advice from personal experience. You really need to get professional help because your son is clearly suffering. However, be cautious and be ready for your life to be picked apart. I was told to shut up and listen and to cooperate with the professionals or else I risked my child being taken away. I was told that I was a bad parent - that was my failure as a parent and my neglect of him in the early years of his development was the root cause of all his problems.
You need to advocate hard for your son if you are to get him the help he needs. You are also going to have to have a thick skin and don't start believe all the psychobabble. Parents are such an easy target.
Good luck
Hiya,
We have had similar problems with our son. The soiling is called encopresis and there are a few websites you could look at for detailed explanation. You may find some of the information and advice helpful.
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/baldwin4.html http://www.psychologytoday.com/conditions/encopresis.html
http://www.autism-help.org/behavior-soiling-encopresis.htm http://counsellingresource.com/ask-the-psychologist/2008/01/03/encopresis-and-childhood-disorders/
My son was told at 6 that he had a predisposition to constipation. This had led to impacted bowel. So we flushed him out and now control his problems by ensuring he gets plenty to drink avoid constipating foods and give him medication every day (only senokot nothing powerful).
He is now 8 and although the problem has almost entirely gone away it hasn't gone. We are now reviewing the diagnosis because Ryan does have behaviour problems too and this leads us to think he may be autistic. It is autism awareness week next week I will be listening. The notion wasn't something I was particularly receptive to 2 years ago.
I hope this helps.
I would consult with psychologist.