Masterbating

[james789]

We have recently adopted a 5yr old girl and she is masterbating frequently and making herself red and sore. When we ask why she does it she says it feels good. How can we get her to stop as it is a concern to mywife and I.

[Jessica2375]

Is she itchy? That might feel good to scratch...

[lgraywolf]

I just have to add, I'm a foster mother of a little girl age 5 who has been with us for the last year. she began masturbating about 6 months after coming to us and was having orgasms. I would be driving down the road and hear her making odd noises, look in the rearview mirror and she would have her eyes rolled back and all hot and sweaty. I called her name and she looked at me and smiled and said "I'm hot mommy". At that time I had no idea that's what was going on but this lasted for months and then finally it came out that she had been molested by a previous relative. Her masturbation caused her many UTIs but she continued. We still have not fixed the problem, just redirect her in public and let her know she can only do this by herself in her room. Although, all that did was cause her to run off in the middle of the day to her room telling me she's tired and wants to take a nap. I'm not ok with this but I continue to research. Sorry I don't have more answers.

[tinkuzfrend]

I think you should take her to the doctor to see if she did some damage to herself or not. you have adopted  her so I think you should look into the kind of environment she was living in before.
I mean was anyone abusing her or doing such activity infront of her made her acquire this habit.

[margypops]

If I interpreted your post correctly I think you also thought it was excessive and were concerned as she was sore, red and  probably uncomfortable, , therefore I would take her to see your Doctor because she may have a bladder infection or something else may have been going on in her life,prior to you adopting her.

[mum2beagain]

Chidlren begin to explore their bodies at an early age, it is perfectly normal, my youngest son began as an infant, sitting up in his crib rocking back and forth on his bottom. He still ocassionally does it right before he goes to sleep, it is almost a self soothing thing for him, but if we see him doing it in public or aroung the house we just tell him now is not the time to do that.
Anxiety is probably a big factor in why she is doing it so frequently, as she has just had some major changes in her life going through adoption it is totally understandable.
You have to let your little girl know that whilst what she is doing isn't wrong it is a private thing she can do in her bedroom or in the bathroom. Make sure she has lots of activites during the day, distraction from this habit is better that telling her not to do it.
Best wishes.

[WIZARDKID]

my credentials ma'am is, I masturbate myself PhD. I like it BA
and i know that young children really shouldn't really quite be making them self orgasm at 5
it doesn't mean because i am 16 i know nothing, i know way more than the average adult, who people in there 40's and 50's are complete morons. and I believe it is called common sense? would you agree? and i dislike people who are educated and a smart and they know it. Those people will become the moron

[margypops]

Wizardkid you are 16 years old and you claim to be an expert ...what are your credentials?

[margypops]

In my opinion if a small child is doing this frequently and is making herself sore so it will be hurting her.. you do take her to see the Doctor,,if only to make sure she hasnt a bladder infection ...

[WIZARDKID]

Well I have never heard that, I am an expert in Masturbation/ Self Stimulation, usually a child like that touches themselves, not to orgasm or masturbate, but a natural and normal thing, to see what they have, it is not uncommon, Women can start young with sexual feelings/ extreme urges to masturbate, usually this is around 10-12 years old, if your worried about her being sexually active, she shouldn't. And when she masturbates, there's absolutely nothing you can do about it. Now that shes figured it out, you might as well give her the talk about the birds and the bees or when a man and a women love each other chat.

Wasting your time with the Doctor about this problem is again a waste of time, new parents i'm assuming?

[margypops]

If it is this bad I think it would be good to see the Doctor as it does sound like a lot of the behavior, ask the Doctor .especially if she is injuring herself ,she is upset by something ,I would ask for help.