Mental problems due to Father

[suckonabigtoe]

Hi, my father has never been around he comes to take showers and leaves. I have 3 brothers and 3 sisters, and they seem to be all having severe issues with this. Ever since an accident that occured between me, my father and 2 sisters they seem to be distant and unruley. They act out in public, use horrific language and name calling, hurt eachother and dont seem to want to play with other kids. I was just wondering in how to go about this subject. My mother has them seeing a mental health doctor, but is there anything more that she can do?

[star25424]

Hi i have a 6 year old son who suffers reactive attachment disorder and other mental health issues his father was abusive towards him and myself I have managed to keep any contact between them to a stand still since he left over those 4 years we have tryed different methods and had countless people involved and its just recently we are starting to have some affect on him and he is improving now my ex is saying he will take me to court to get access and he does not seem to aknowlege what he did to us or take my sons problems seriously. Whatdo I do? what will happen will he get access if its a risk to my sons mental health?

[billyandsarah99]

oh..lol..my email is ***@**** you need anything let me know hun.
Please keep me updated on how things are as well!

[billyandsarah99]

I think they are just acting out b/c what your father done. I am sure it scared them and hurt them as well and they probably are just acting out b/c of it. I am sure they are mad and not sure how to handle it. Did your father ever show signs of abuse before? If not then I am sure they are also scared, not knowing if maybe mom or you will do the same one day and they are probably worried you 2 will one day as well. I am sure also that they see your mom struggling now and probably blame themselves for what happened.
I think when they act out, show them lots and lots of love. Talk to them yourselves about why daddy done what he done. Reassure them that you 2 still love them and won't ever do the same that daddy did. But let them know what they are doing is not right and they have to take a punishment for it..like a timeout.
I applaud you honey, I can tell you love your mom and siblings alot. I applaud you for wanting things to get better and trying to make your moms life easier! You seem mature and I am sure your mom is very proud of you.
Remember though, it may take all the patience you have but try not to let your frustration show with them. Put yourself in there shoes about what happened and how you would feel at there age. Good luck to you. It won't be an easy road.
If you yourself ever need anyone to talk to or want anything please don't hesitate to send me a message!

[suckonabigtoe]

the incdent was a couple months back, my father came home in an upset mood, and something triggered him for some reason and he started punching and throwing things at us and it was a scary thing, the 3 younger boys saw it from their bedroom and my other younger sister was in the living room. Im 19 right now and my father hasnt been around at all. im just trying to help my mother. she works night shifts at the hospital and doesnt have the energy for all of this herself.

[mba3mom]

I would like to ask (if you don't mind..how old are you? what kind of incident are you referring to?)