My younger sister has always thought she got the crappy end of the stick. We come from a family of children and she is the middle. Throughout our childhood my parents always had to work harder and give her more, so that she would feel this way, yet the same thing happened. Christmas gifts were more elaborate, school clothes more trendy.. ALL so that she would not cry that she got left out. We all understood this and did not mind. We did not feel mistreated, but were sometimes angry that although she got what she wanted, she still acted like she didn't and frankly treated our parents like ****.
We are adults now, and this is still an issue. AGES ( 25, ME 23, BETH 22, 21, 18) IF we are not constantly calling her keeping her up to date she feels left out. Yet she never calls any of us. She drinks and drives and for this reason i do not let her watch my daughter or take her anywhere. She does not understand this, she thinks i have something personal against her.
our youngest brother and sister still live at home with our parents. Last weekend our oldest sister came down with her girls and had a nice dinner at moms house. We tried to get a hold of beth but wasn't able to. I decided not to bring my family over for the dinner..I knew that if I did, she would think we planned this against her and feel left out. She called me that night asking when dinner was, i figured she'd heard and would go, i said I'm not sure around 6?
She then called up my parents house while dinner was going on and said I had just called her and said they were all having dinner without her..... i WASN'T EVEN THERE,,,I STAYED HOME SO SHE WOULDN'T FEEL LEFT OUT!!
WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HER?? I CAN'T HANDLE THIS!! WE, CAN'T HANDLE THIS ANYMORE..WALKING ON EGGSHELLS SO WE DON'T UPSET HER.?? SHOULD SHE GO TO THERAPY, MAYBE GET INTO A 12 STEP PROGRAM??