My 12 year old son, Andy, is stealing, from stores, from me, from friends, and for the second time, from his teacher..and lying about it. We have been dealing with this since he was 4 years old and I honestly have no idea what more I can say to him. We have been through it all...jail time...it's wrong for these reasons..disrepectful...trust issues...everything. And still he does it. When he was a kid, my oldest,DJ, then 8 yrs. old, would get him to do his "dirty work", telling him that "if you go get the cookies, I'll share with you", or whatever else DJ would want. We did what we were supposed to do and punished them. We have taken away privileges, grounded them (at one point, they were grounded the entire year minus 3 weeks!), we've tried positive reinforcement, we've even sold their prized gameboy SPs to pay for things they had stolen. NOTHING has worked.
I honestly don't think he gets "it". Whenever I ask him "Why?" he always says "I don't know" or just stares at me with this blank look on his face. I'm terrified that it could be something serious like kleptomania. He has ADHD but that is well controlled with his meds...he gets A's and B's in school and good citizenship marks, so I don't think it has anything to do with his ADHD. He's a great kid, otherwise. He's smart, funny, and a great big brother.
Does anyone have any ideas? I will try just about anything. I've looked into Military schools and special boarding schools for troubled kids but I don't have the kind of money required or good enough credit for assistance.