My 6 year old son behavior

[LexNGio]

My 6 year old son recently started peeing his pants randomly throughout the day. I never catch him doing it until he is done and I find the wet clothes or notice he has changed in to a new outfit. The other day we were watching tv together and I dosed off to wake up to him standing by the closet peeing on the floor. His attitude has also changed drastically. He has become very mouthy and talks back to everything I ask him to do. At this point I have tried yelling, taking away tv and outside time with his friends but nothing seems to be working! I'm actually very concerned its beginning to stress me out and I have become extremely emotional. His father and I have been seperated for going on 2 years now and I have been seeing the same guy on and off for about that long as well until recently we made it official. His father has stopped coming around because of his own selfish reasons and I know it hurts him even though he just doesn't show it. I really don't know what to do please help.

[margypops]

Has his dad remarried or another partner as I have also seen they are pursueded/influenced by a new mate ....It could still be possible that the amount of folks you mention here , may have used the word Idiot ..and he is copying that's what children do , they learn from us .

[LexNGio]

The only other ppl he is around is my parents, sisters, nieces and nephews. I don't think you understand how many times I have tried and pleaded with his dad to help and take him to do guy things but he also moved away from him about 50 miles so he makes excuses as to why he cannot come and be apart of his life. He is not a good dad and to be honest that was draining me emotionally trying to get him to be a dad and help me. I know he is acting out I just need ways to make this easier for him or correcting him in a different manner. School will be starting up again here on Monday so I hope things get a little easier.

[margypops]

I agree that calling you names and the behavior you describe is not a good idea ..I dont think yelling  at him does much good either ,it is only setting up more confrontation.He's only 6 year old , would there be any chance that you ask his dad to participate in his life more ..took him out ,did guy things with him ?  You may have to use the method of removing privileges for his bad behavior , where would he get calling you an idiot would he have heard it from anyone else is there any other family around ?

[LexNGio]

No the new bf is not living in the house, which really he is not new at all just now things are more like a relationship and he is around more often. His dad is a very selfish person. I have been pleading with him to see him and would call and ask him to take him atleast twice a week but he is just about himself right now he does not understand my son needs him.As far as my son being mouthy when he tells me no and Im not going too  or uses names like idiot and then the peeing stuff I believe that requires things to be taken especially when it is on a constant basis! I was raised by both my parents so this is different for me but I know I would never talk back to my parents. I know he is going through things that I could never understand but that is why im asking for suggestions. I give him all of my time. Im done with college and in a career 7-3  job so he does not miss out on me at all.

[margypops]

May I ask if the new bf is living at the house with you and your son?It sounds as if your son is upset by something possibly not seeing his dad yet seeing what he may think is a replacement.I do believe that children ,whatever the circumstances need both parents in their lives ..so if you can arrange for him to be with his Dad regularly .Children will act out in this kind of manner when they are emotionally upset.Stop yelling  ..Stay quiet and walk away when he is 'mouthy ' use the taking away privileges method when he does something requires a punishment. Separation of parents is a big thing in a child's life he is feeling very hurt .walk in his shoes ..