My 8 Year Old Son

[Lynn4758]

I just found out from another mom that while my son was on an outting he pulled another boys pants down, including his underwear, in front of a large group of his peers.  This of course totally embarrased the little boy and my son didn't see the harm it did to that boy.  I also found out that at school he is trying to grab other little boys privates and trying to kiss them.  There are boys now that don't want to play or even be around my son because of his behaviour.  At home he does push boundaries, he tries to touch his sisters privates and has tryed to show his privates to his older brother, and cousins.  I only thought he was acting like this at home to get attention and to get a laugh out of people.  We have talked to him and told him how inappropriate this was and he goes in time out.  However, it doesn't stop him from doing it again.  I have grounded him for the week and I am having him apologize to the kids he acted inappropriately to.  I don't know what else to do...Why is he acting like this?  Why is always trying to kiss and touch others?  I am very upset about this and I don't know where to go from here... Please help!

[Ashelen]

I have to agree with margy. unfortunately this sounds like a learned behavior...being curious is one thing, but trying to force other kids to let him touch/kiss them, exposing himself, this is not normal curiosity....

I think its time to take an in-depth look at his life up until now and try to figure out if anyone could've done something to him...and get him into counseling to help sort this out before it becomes a serious problem.

Please do NOT ignore this. If, heaven forbid, something has happened to him, get him help.

There's the possibility that this is just some behavior that he latched on to, like you said, to get attention...but my gut is screaming something more is going on, so I urge you to get him to a professional for an evaluation. If nothing comes up, good! You can deal with it behaviorally. However, better safe than sorry.

[margypops]

Is it possible that he has seen this behavior from someone in the family? children usually learn from others ,, you say he has an older brother could any of the behavior come from him or his sisters ,also cousins..I suggest you check out the dynamics Possibly some counseling may bring to light where he has seen the behavior .....