My child is being labeled a bully at six by her teacher what should I do?

[Hannahlee]

My child's teacher is telling me that she is a bully for displaying what I have read to be totally normal behavior, like arguing, bossy behavior, and sometimes saying uncaring things that she doesn't understand. She is very caring with her brother and her friends at after school and with family friends. She isn't really ever even bossy with them, but in her Kindergarten class she seems to be gettng in trouble and her teacher even said that the other kids are starting not to like her. I asked one of the other parents that volunteer in her class if she saw any of this behavior and she said she is always sweet and kind when she is there. She acts just fine when I am there as well, I also asked her after school director who works at the same school and she says that she gets along with everyone just fine and rarely gets in trouble. What should I say to this teacher if I feel that she has unfarely labeled my child and I even have basic proof of appropriate age behavior?

[margypops]

Definatly address this with the teacher as your child is okay in other situations it would seem there is a problem with the child /teacher interaction here,Speak to the teacher, say it as you said it here,that she has unfairly labeled your daughter and speak to the principle also,the fact no one else has seen this tells its own story , the teacher has a problem,whatever her reason ,doesnt sound as if your child has. Good luck

[Encephalomalcia]

The teacher ultimately is in control of her classroom.  If your child is acting out in her classroom, it is the teacher's responsibility to handle it.  I do not know why the teachers think that the parents can make the child behave in the classroom.  Parents are not there in the classroom at the time and have no control over the situation.  Talking to a young child at home doesn't always help (they forget by the next day).  If the teacher is seeing bossy behavior then she should address it with your daughter at school.  Let the teacher know that you do not appreciate her labeling your child as a bully and if she cannot handle the situation you will have to address it with the principal or the school board.