6 yr old sexually abused a 3 yr old girl

[smuttyangel]

My 6 year old has always behaved ( i beleive) in an odd manner regarding his 'interest' in bodies/sex.  I know that he accidentally stumbled upon a porn site on a family used pc about a year ago.  Since then nothing inadvertant as far as i know has happened.  Until last week.  1st incident was in front of me and other kids.  I had friends 3 girls staying over, my son took an object (cant remember what) and shoved it up 3 yr old girls skirt and hurt her privates.  He was told off, explained that not only did that hurt her but it was wrong and we dont do that.

He'd been at his dad's for a few days, due to come home yesterday.  His father and girlfriend (g/f has 5 yr old daughter that my son considers to be his sister) and a 1 yr old girl together.  They were visiting friends, very close friends, that My son has known for over 2 years.  the friends have 2 girls, one aged 3, other one 5.  

they were all playing alone upstairs, parents downstairs.  Hearing s scream, the 2 oldest girls came running and told the mums that my sone had taken down the 3 yr old girls trousers and pants, then shoved a toy syringe up the 3 yr olds bottom.  it left a red mark, and i gather from what has been said that he actually inserted it. The 3 yr old couldnt sit down for at least 5 mins.  I'm horrified and devasated.  dont know what to do.  I have felt uncomfortable being undressed/in underwear around my son for a while, as he was showing an unhealthy interest to my mind.  His father is what i would call sexually deviant.  From things i have since learned, and my own mum having stumbled upon porn on our pc involving animals, I am now seriously worried.  

I also discovered on his father's pc in amongst a load of porn pics, a little girl being abused.  i lost it completely and smashed his laptop up..he says he didnt know it was there, and it was amongst over 500 pics, the rest of the content was ordinary naked women.  I just dont know what to do anymore....

please help.

[lexchlmoo]

he has obviously been watching his daddy's porno.  his dad is at fault her or whoever has allowed your son to view this.  if i was in your shoes, i would not allow him over to his father's house anymore.  if he wants to see him he can take him to the park, or come over and see  him.  he isn't being supervised or someone is watching this stuff in front of him.  or maybe even him and his girlfriend are doing stuff in front of the boy that is very inappropriate.  

Kids mimic what they see.  it's how they learn.

Him being removed from this behavior may help him, try redirecting his attention when he's being curious in this manner.  just let him know it's inappropriate to behave this "way" in  public.  

i don't know how long this has been going on, but he may need counseling.  if it were my kids i think i would try to find some help and make the father pay for it.  it upsets me to here children's innocence taken from them.

i had some cousins, who's father's would watch porno in front of them.  they were sexually activited at an early age and one (once he became of adult age) went to jail for child molestation but he had special needs.  and i've known girls to become sexually active at early ages because of being molested.

[specialmom]

um, I think I'd call my lawyer or court and have all visits supervised with his father.  And I guess he has seen porn at your house too.  Um----- GET RID OF THE PORN.  I think letting him know that this is NOT acceptable is a start and a therapist is in order.  Wondering if he has had any molestation himself.  And obviously, he needs to be supervised at ALL times.  No more going upstairs while the adults hang out together.  Supervision by kids around his age doesn't count.  It needs to be an adult.  I'm thinking this is going to be hard for you as you are only with him part of the time and that is why I'd go to court about it.  I know that is drastic but you have to protect your son.  He's not just sexually curious, he is sexually aggressive.  That's a dangerous situation and maybe it isn't just something he's seen but something that has happened to him.  Good luck-----  I'm sure this is killing you.