I feel like you are mirroring my situation! My son is the same way and he is 3. Runs away, doesn't listen, acts out, hits me. Spankings don't work, incentives don't work, time outs don't work either. It is very frustrating and hard because everyone has an opinion on how I should discipline him too. It is very hard to be a mom sometimes!
Hello!
I have stumbled across your thread, as I am now a mom two 3 year old twin boys. One of them is so well behaved and calm, its a joke. The other, is so wound up, and fresh, almost like he can't help himself. We can't take him to restaurants, or shopping, and it seems EVERYONE has an opinion on how I should discipline him.
I have found such help in the posts on this site. I'm wondering how your boy is today? Did he out-grow these "tough three's" and move on to a calmer, more agreeable child? That is what people tell me, but it's SO tough when you're living it.
Thank you,
StressedTwinsMom
today has been horable he has tested every bit of patience i have i am trying to stick with it but am so fed up just after 1 day i am trying so hard the karate instructer told me to try and take away everything that matters to him when we got home and give it back little by little as he does good things just something as simple as sitting down and eating super as he was told when he misbehaves take something back what do u think about that i need opionions and any advice i will try anything i am going to try this along with timeouts and other techniques everyone has suggested
Stayathomemommy, I can hear from your post that you are really trying and that is great. I will tell you that I have two sons that are 15 months apart. My oldest boy has a developmental delay called sensory integration disorder and my second son does not. Both can get wild. Both can do wacky things. What I described really has worked from me. Tried and tested and worked. It is called natural consequences. So think about what the consequence will be for something. YOu may not take them grocery shopping or to a restuarant-------- but the gym counts. Warn him about losing his favorite item and that he will leave immediately if he does X. I teaches that you mean what you say and that there are consequences and HIS behavior determines what happens. There is a good book called "love and logic" that talks a lot about natural consequences.
For 3, I'd keep it simple. If I said use your inside voice---- my boys would not hear all of the words. Rambunctious boys tend to miss some of the words. So I'm better off with a simple command (soft voice) (or say just "whisper"). For little children------- very simple and quick commands work best.
Try to always remain patient and I'd try to speak with your husband about keeping things calm at home. Discipline is for teaching and guiding and not so much for creating fear in my opinion. Real respect comes from teaching and guiding. It is hard when spouses aren't on the same page. This happens to a lot of couples----- so do the best you can with that.
And distracting with JOBS really helps my boys. So when you need him to comply and be by your side--------- mom's helper is a good idea.
good luck
also he is VERY BRIGHT and so smart for is age so yes i do agree with u on that as well
Usually the behavior gets worse when you clamp down, temporarily.
Sounds like it's hitting home for him.
Keep at it - we're pulling for you!!!