Not really sure where to post this. Relationship? Child development?. I recently started to see a woman that I am quite fond of. It's going on a few months now. Something I find odd, is that she sometimes invites me over after 10:30, and I assume that her child is asleep in his room, and that we will be sharing adult tiime. When I arrive, I find that her 10 year old son is asleep on the sofa in the den. (She wants us all to lay together) I am not comfortable being intimate (not sex) while next to a sleeping 10 year old boy. I have also learned that they sleep together in her bed every night even though he has a beautiful room. If feels wierd to me that they go up to bed together as husband and wife would....and am not sure where I fit into this equation....or perhaps I don't??? When I mentioned this to her, she was quite distressed, and torn, and I believe is making it some sort of unhealthy competition which I will not partake in. I believe the child, having a bed time, and sleeping in his own room is most healthy for all concerened. Not only for the child, but for our relationship as well. Am I off base?