worried want to provide a secure environment for kids

[lis51]

Hi I´ve posted before about my son and we´re doing a little bit better. We were struggling with anxiety, shyness, tantrums, aggressiveness and out of control behavior. I feel much more in control and he´s better.

What I haven´t been able to deal with is that the two maids that live here with us have to be changed for another person for a period of a month, two weeks, a week because they leave without notice (a common practice amongst maids here in Mexico). They are very young women who take the job and then leave it when it is their time to visit their homes every two weeks. One of them, Carmen, has been here with us for 6 months now and states that she´s happy, she´s commited and very dedicated to her job. But she´s had 4 coworkers in 6 months. Problem is my kids get used to the new maid and she leaves without saying goodbye. They receive good, fair wages but even though they leave. We treat them with respect, are very careful in how we request things from them but they just won´t stay. I don´t know what to do. I feel that this situation of seeing a new person every other week at home gives my kids a sense of instability. We are a family of 4, my husband is out of the house from 730 am till almost 800 pm so I´m in charge of the kids most of the day and the maids help me. I don´t know what to do, the chores are divided amongst the maids and I´m the one who takes care of the kids. What should I do?

[skepticalpeach]

I have to say that it does affect children when people come and go like that, especially children that have a harder time with change. Of course the fact that you are always there for them means more than anything in the world, but it can hurt to see someone leave without saying goodbye. My husband and I decided to be very generous about a year ago and let a close friend live with us for a few months. The 3 months ended and we were on very bad terms by the end. She just disappeared one morning without saying goodbye. My DD was so upset. She started pooping her pants again and couldn't sleep at night. She was fine in the end and is thriving really well now, but it was a struggle for a while. If it were me I would try and find someone who will promise to be there for a set amount of time.

[margypops]

and I agree with Rock Rose ....

[RockRose]

Since you're the one who takes care of the kids,  I'm not sure it's that unstable an environment.  They have their home,  and their mother doing the mothering - does it really matter who does the mopping and dusting?  

BTW,  if you offered more than the going rate,  they'd return after visiting home.

[margypops]

How about a live in Au Pair or Nanny..forget the local maids go through an agency who will arrange someone you can interview. one to do hoousework and one to help with the children , are they small children will they be going to school soon ?