3 year old sun is very jealous

[Sassoo0]

My 3 year old son is very jealous about me whenever I say hi to someone or talk to anyone even his father he hits me on my face and keeps bitting me and pushing me.he asks me mum do u love me?? Every 5 mns although I hug him and kiss him all the time and tell him how much I love him.if he is alone with any member in the family he becomes very good and as soon as he sees me he doesn't stop screaming and crying to grap my attention..he removes my pictures with my friends on the I pad all the time telling me ur pics mummy aren't nice with yr friends I will delete it.the problem is growing every day and he has a serious problem with me.in the nursery he is so quiet and no one complains from him but as soon as he enters the house he becomes crazy. Any advice??

[specialmom]

Hi there.  I had a son with some separation issues as well as being quite possessive of me.  He didn't want daddy and he didn't want daddy hugging me!  I would just say "no.  We are nice to daddy" and hug daddy in front of him.  Then we ignored it.  If he got 'crazy' and was melting down or something, he got a time out as we had a 'no fits' rule.  

The separation anxiety I never disciplined for because it was true anxiety that he was displaying.  I found that if I did as you said, stay a bit and let him warm up---  then he'd be more comfortable.  

I'm not sure I'd allow a 3 year old to take over my ipad.  I would say "off limits" if he was trying to alter anything on it.  Consequence of that is that the ipad goes away for X amount of time.  

Are you away from him a fair amount or something?  He does seem to have a bit more than your typical in terms of possessiveness of you.  

[MarkLakewood3367]

Yes.  Your son requires your discipline for these behaviors.  Through appropriate discipline, your son will learn appropriate boundaries in terms of the appropriate ways to get your attention.  If this behavior was generalized to others, then I would be really concerned about his esteem and need for attention and affection.  However, this behavior appears to be more focused on you.  

Only give him your attention (hugging, kissing, holding, talking, etc...) when he behaves appropriately.  When you give him your attention when he acts out, this will only increase the inappropriate behavior.