How to get my 10 yr. old daughter to admit she's lying

[momneedshelp12221967]

Scenario: some tokens for Chuckie Cheese went missing right before Christmas. We asked our daughter if she knew where they could be, since she was the last person to have had them. She said no, she had no idea where they got to. Now, all of a sudden, they show up in the junk drawer which had been surched more than once as well as the rest of the house. We asked her if she knew how the tokens turned up in the junk drawer. She said no. Since the only other person in the house is an 18 month old....we know she did it. We have asked her to simply tell us the truth and she won't be in any trouble. She swears she knows nothing ablot them at all. I just don't know how to handle this. I am at the end of my rope. We have no solid proof she took them and then put them back after we made a big stink about them. But I don't want hetr to think she's gotten away with stealing and lying?????? HELP!


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[momneedshelp12221967]

She tells little lies to her sisters...like...."Mommy said I can sit in the front seat" but My older girls know that she is not allowed to sit in the front seat. When they say that to her she just gets in the back. There have also been things broken in the house and she will never fess up to doing it even though there are no other children in the house that could have done it. No big deals thus far.

You do have a point that I did not think about. At the very least, she tried to make it right and put them back. I hope she doesn't do this again. I hope it does not become a re-occuring problem. We are not a wealthy nor a poor family. We are comfortable. She gets everything she needs and wants, within reason, as do her sisters. So, for the life of me, I just can't figure this out.

Thank you for your wisdom and experience. I am a 42 yr. mother of 4 daughters ages: 24, 18, 17 & 10. I guess I will continue to live and learn.

Thank you :)

[RockRose]

Is this the only time she's done something like this,  or is this a pattern that goes on and on?  

The positive side here is,  she felt remorse and guilt and tried to return them where they'd be recovered.    She's not owning up to taking them,  but it appears she did try to make it right and return them to you.

If this is the only instance of this,  I'd let it go.   If this happens constantly it's a problem.