What do i do

[Yola6652]

My 9 year old son has been acting out sexually with his step sister she's 5 and his sister she's 5 both times he pinned them to the bed and got on top of them so when I asked about it began to bang his head against the wall crying saying he didn't do it so I called his dad and thats when I found out he did the same with his step sister he was diagnosed with adhd he takes medicine for that he get in trouble constantly home and school then when he does things he have this wearied look on his face like he doesn't care so I'm suggesting the mental hospital that's my next step what should I do

[specialmom]

Stay calm about it and realize that something bad may have happened to him as well so you need to make this about his having a 'safe' place rather than he's the bad guy.  good luck

[Yola6652]

Thanks a bunch  that helped out a lot I'm going to have him meet a psychologist and get this problem solved I don't want my baby growing up to be a pedophile

[specialmom]

Hi there.  A mental hospital?  Okay, let's think about this first.  Why would he be doing that?  Could he be a victim of such sexual intrusion himself?  Most child upon child molestation happens because the aggressor was once molested themselves.  That makes them a victim as well.  

I think your son needs a safe place to talk and a psychologist would be the right person for that.  NOT that he has a mental health disorder.  But something is going on and he needs empathy to explore what that is.

And he needs LOTS of supervision.  I'd keep him separated from the 5 year olds unless you are with them.  Let the 5 year old sleep in your room and in her dad's room if you are worried about night time.  And let your son know that this is not allowed---  he is to not do this kind of thing.  

Even if he denies it, say that to him.  Not with your mean "you are so sick" kind of voice but in your concerned, I love you mom voice.  Then take him to a psychologist and allow him to safely explore where he came up with this idea and what is now driving it.  They are better equipped to help him than you.

By the way, most kids of that age WILL lie when they are pushed into a corner and about to get in huge trouble.  It's a stage most kids go through.  

good luck---  and I do get that this is very upsetting and devastating.  I'm very sorry this is happening.  He's a boy having issues though rather than a mental patient.