Tempered 3year old

[frustratedmom2005]

My 3yr old has been displaying more temper tantrums when its time to go to daycare. Its becoming more of a struggle now that its summer and my other two children are at home. He cries and screems and he's even hit me. He also picked up a very bad word (The "B" word) from relative and he called me the "B" word in front of his teachers. I'm still embarrassed. What should I do? At home, he plays well by himself and with his brothers but he also gets into everything (milk, eating butter, chasing the dogs, peeing on my shower curtains, writing on freshly painted walls).. I've tried talking and spankings. What should I do.

I hate to leave him kicking and screeming and yelling the "B" word around his peers. I'm tired of sweating before I go to work. Please help!

[frustratedmom2005]

Thanks for the response.

My other boys are not in daycare because they're older (18 & 12). I can honestly say that I have not tried taking toys away. One thing I have done over the last 2 days that seem to be working is, instead of yelling "Stop It" or threaten to take his toys, I have been speaking in a more firm stable voice. Instead of talking from a distance, I get face to face with him and it seems to be calming him down.

I just hope that when we return to daycare tomorrow, this new approach will continue to work. I will definitely try taking away his toys and letting him help me more around the house.

Blessings,

[megochick101]

One question I have is why is only your 3 yo going to daycare while your other children are not? That may be one of the reasons for the temper tantrum right there. If it's because you have to go to work, try just explaining to him that you know how he feels(that you'd like to stay home and play around the house too but you have to go to work)

As to the use of the "B" word. Have you tried taking his toys away and making him earn them back through good behavior? My 2 1/2 yo has been acting up lately too and I tried all kinds of things that never helped. Now if he gets into things(like the fridge, he loves trying to play in the fridge) I give him a warning, something like "Michael either get out of the fridge or you will go to your room" or "Michael stop climbing on the table or mommy will take away your car(or whatever toy is in my line of site lol)" and then i count to 5. If he's not out of the fridge or off the table by then i do whatever it was i told him i would, after a few times of doing this throughout the day he listens before i say 5. and i'm a stay at home mom so i have him help me with little things around the house to earn his toys back. Like i'll let him "help" to sort the laundry or give him the mini broom and dustpan to "help" me sweep the kitchen floor(it's not the best clean job in the world but he tries lol) so then after helping mommy he gets his toy back. I also always try and tell him thank you or please whenever he does listen. If he does the same thing again I just start all over lol

I don't know if this will help your situation or not, but i hope so. :)