almost 9 year old daughter wont go to sleep and urinates frequently.

[mrbruce88]

My 9 year old Daughter,who lives with her mother and Stepfather,wont go to sleep at night and puts up a fight. she does this when she stays over my house too. We put her in bed...tuck her in, the normal routine and she gets up and comes into the room crying and saying "i cant sleep,i have to go to the bathroom". she will go, and she does GO, than its back to bed,tucked in. here she comes out again same thing " cant sleep, need to use the bathroom"

She also requests that we lay with her for a few minutes and we do, as soon as we get up, if she hasnt fell completely asleep, shes back at it. We put her to sleep about 8:30 a,d this routine happens sometimes till 12:30.going to the bathroom 20 times.... ..than shes miserable the next day.  We have had her checked out physically and all is well, urine is fine,health is fine...

Her mother and stepfather do have some problems,my daughter does know because she has told me that they argue alot. Her mother says its "more like talking not yelling" when I asked her...im not sure what I can do to help my little girl! any ideas?

[mrbruce88]

Margypops,
                I do know that they USED to get along good,I kept on top of that to make sure...but lately from what ive seen and heard, He does his own thing and never attends any of MY daughters functions...One thing I left out was that her mother and stepfather have a 2 year old together.

[RockRose]

mrbruce,  when you describe things like this,  it's important to really get the details clear.

There is no possible way this child is actually going to the bathroom,  and "does go" 20 times at night.    If she's actually urinating even 5 times,  that's a concern,  and she needs to be checked out again,  because they missed something in her testing.  That's not behavioral.

If she's just getting up and wanting to wander about and sit on the toilet,  that's a different thing.

If that's the case,  that she's not actually producing urine you can hear,  I completely agree with Margy that this is behavioral.  If she's truly peeing,  it's probably medical.

[margypops]

Sounds like there are problems at her moms house, and argueing is traumatic when you are a child trust me, voices do get raised whatever they tell you, it is good you are concerned for her, As to her sleeping she is doing this to be with you, children do get upset and lonely at night,what you are doing is sending mixed messages,by sleeping with her for a few mins it is saying its okay, what you have to do is take her to bed and leave her there when she comes out, quietly tell her to go back and take her back if you have to, no laying with her just consistantly leaving her in her own room if she comes out to go to the bathroom, dont feed into it, tell her to go to the bathroom and  then go back to bed.she can tuck herself in after the initial good nights. It does sound as if she has upset at her other home and really her Mom is the one to talk to regarding that, does your daughter like her step father, do they get on okay?