awful 3 year-old

[dawnyrose]

My 3 year-old is out of control. She is almost always defiant; she has to control every situation. She screams often over anything and everything. Some examples are how she wants her carseat buckled, who gets her out of car, which cup she uses, how she wants you to phrase sentences spoken to her, how her cup is positioned, etc. I expect a certain amount of defiance from a 3 year-old, however, the battle is over almost everything and her reactions are almost always over the top. There are many days filled entirely with screaming and crocodile tears. She can be very compulsive, particularly when she is tired. Bedtime is often a complete nightmare

Most recently we have put her in camp for a few hours to prepare her for preschool. She started out very angry while at the camp, hitting the teacher & throwing toys. After the first week or so, she has somewhat settled down, although when I pick her up she is either all smiles or very angry with me. I have witnessed her throw a chair over and scream at all the teachers, as well as myself. The teacher has referred to her as angry, strong-willed, very verbal for her age, & bright.

My husband and I have met with a child psychologist, who ruled out a developmenttal or sensory issue. She told us she has behavioral issues,  but we remain puzzled as to how to help her and bring peace to our household. I know our 5 year-old can get upset over the incessant screaming too. We have tried being consistently firm, although we try to help her when she seems agitated & compulsive. We have tried a reward/punishment system with marbles. We do time-outs in her room. Nothing is helping thus far. Does anyone have any advice for us at this point? We are desperate to help our child and bring some happiness and peace back to our household.

[margypops]

How about some parenting classes aswell, it may not be all about the child ,she is only 3 year old ..could be all need some help to cope ....good luck