3 1/2 year old girl will not go poo on the toilet

[hollylevesque1]

I am a frustrated mother of one 3 ½ year old girl. Madison has been pee potty trained since December 2009. We have tried to go from pull ups to underwear but the issue at hand is not the pee. Madison was constipated at a young age. Even when she was newborn we would have to see our little girl go through agony because she could not poop. We had tried soy formula, low iron formula and foods, prune juice… nothing worked. During this whole ordeal we also tried cutting out foods from her diet that would be constipating… cheese, bananas, bread etc. At 2 ½ we tried pro biotics as it was recommended by a family member who’s daughter was going through the same thing. It did not work either. We then started giving her senokot syrup (on advice of a pharmacist) in some chocolate milk. And voila she was not constipated anymore.
This is where the issue comes in. She refuses to go poop on the potty. She has always thrown a fit (crying/screaming) anytime that she was told that it was time for poop on the potty. But now we know that it is not constipation because she is going ALL OF THE TIME!!!!!! She will outright poop in her panties at the dinner table, at daycare, watching T.V you name it…. It is soft stool and so for a while I was led to believe that she did not feel it when she was going but we still tried to potty her regardless. We have recently seen in her actions that she knows that she is going and that she just does not seem to care.
It is to the point that we are unable to send her to school this year and our babysitter has sent us home a probation letter stating that if she does not improve her behavior in regards to the potty then she will have to stop watching her. My husband and I have tried everything and we just do not know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Athena_M]

Maybe the syrup is too strong for her.  She should not be having loose stools.  Have you told her pediatrician?  

[mammo]

This is normal behavior for one this age who has experienced painful bowel movements in the past.  She still associates the  BM with pain even though she no longer has pain.  Just remind her that when she poops her pull-up that it didn't hurt.  She will just one day decide to go.