concerned about my daughter in her dad's care

[jmcac]

I have a beautiful little girl who is almost 5 and I am stuck in a custody arrangement that is not working.  The arrangement the Judge came up with is that i have my daughter for a week (friday afternoon til friday morning) and my ex husband gets her the next week and it alternates.  We had an issue about a year ago where i had to call DFS because my daughter said that her father left her alone in the house  one night.  They said it was my word against his, even though my daughter told the investigator straight out what happened herself.  Now for the past few months she is continuously telling me and my family that "Daddy, doesn't pay attention to me".  She is begining to wet her bed the  first night she is back with me and the night before she knows she goes back to her dad's.  She is fine for the rest of the week. She says she is the one who cleans his house that it is dirty. I tell her she can tell daddy you want to call me anytime she is there and she says that he won't let her.  Last night i received a phone call from her she was very upset and crying and she was begging to come sleep at my house.  It broke my heart to hear her so upset.  I tried to calm her down on the phone she just wanted someone to lie down with her when she went to bed and that he wouldn't.  Im wondering if this is starting to affect her emotionally.  She thanks me for paying attention to her because she says daddy doesn't, she is not even 5 years old she should not have to thank someone for paying attention to her.  I am afraid that as she grows and becomes more aware of things this will cause more issues. I am thinking about going back to court to fight for full custody, should i have my daughter seen by someone first?

[margypops]

My answer to your question is yes you should  if she is being upset going there every other week for a start I would think you can narrow that time frame , have you tried speaking to her father, talking about your concerns , and asking if the visit could be every other weekend or some less time .If he wont then I say you should indeed have her interests at heart, and take it back to court.Good Luck