I have a 3 1/2 old son who stopped listening 4 months. He was always loving, did everything he was suppose to do. He has always been your typical 2-3. My husband and I did not go through the terrible 2's.
The end of the summer 2007 my father in law developed Dementia and he had to come live with us. He has been difficult, recently he started realizing he needed to be nice and not be as difficult to deal with. In saying this, it has been hard on our family. We are on our own. My son has been reacting since then. I am about to switch daycares for the 3rd time, most of this was not his fault. As soon as things change he becomes defiant. sometimes he does not want to listen or sit in circle time. I thought about ADHD but he is not all over the place. He is defiant. He says he doesn't want to do something. I noticed alot of his behavior has been in daycare. If they change one thing, he reacts. Sometimes if he is asked to do something he acts if he doesn't hear you. He will contnue with his tasks. I have to pull him away from what he is doing. My response has been if you can't listen then you came play with this anymore and I will take his 1 hour of tv away from him. He has a good diet he sleeps really well. He is in bed at 8PM during daylight savings time otherwise 7:30PM, with no problem. The bad side he wakes up on the wrong side of the bed. The mornings are tough because he starts being defiant again. My husband and I are concerned. We try to spend time with him. It also seems like needs constant attention. Yes, he is an only child.
The other thing we had a problem with is daycare. He would pick up one bad habit and it takes forever to get rid of. How do we stop the, shut your mouth? There are certain words and actions we deem bad language in the house. We got him out of the what and not saying excuse me when other people are talking. The daycare would call me because he would act like spiderman in class, one kid stop sleeping he stopped. Now daycare can't get him to sleep anymore. He hit the teacher with his lunch box and he told the teacher to shut her mouth. The daycare calls me at least 2-3 times a week to come and get him. He will pick up this behavior but he will go through extremes with it. I decided to start him at a new daycare that had more structure. His first day has been fair. Right now I am at a lost. I dont know what to do about him being so defiant