Disrespectful?

[FrankiesGram]

Hi, My grandson is a very bright 5 year old, and for the most part very well behaved.  He is about to enter kindergarten.  My husband and I have a very close, loving relationship with him.  I have been concerned about some things he has said to me the last few times we have visited.  He has told me that he doesn't love me anymore, and he has even told me that he wishes I was dead.  My daughter of course spoke up at the time and told him that was no way to speak to me.  Later, when I discussed the incident with my daughter alone, she said that he is just too young to understand that words can hurt people, and that he doesn't really understand what being dead means.  Other than his just speaking up with these things at times, we had much fun together, and enjoyed our visit.  He doesn't say this type of thing to my husband.  

[mewziklvr]

Two questions for you ~ Is your grandson's father in a relationship with your daughter?  Could he be feeling pressure to detach from you?  My husband's ex-wife had no qualms about expressing her hatred towards my husband's family right in front of their son and even went so far as to tell him he should not love them.  He felt pressured to please his mother and whenever she was present he would be very cold and distant, when she was gone, he was just happy and loving.  

Second question ~ Is there some incident that happened to your grandson that is causing him to lash out.  Could have been anything, no matter how insignificant it may seem.  People, whether they are 5 or 50 tend to take out their frustration on the people they love the most.  Has he recently lost someone or something that was close to him or had a change in his routine?

I am sure he still loves you.  Children are not born with natural hate, its something that they are taught, sometimes inadvertantly, sometimes intentionally.  It sounds like maybe he is frustrated about something and does not know how to express that frustration.  

[margypops]

Is it possible he has heard some things said about you within his earshot, if not how about the TV could he have seen a movie with Negative things about the Mom or Granmom,it does read like he has heard something about you he didnt like, how about you ask him when you are alone why he said it and had he heard it anywhere, children are great copiers,ask questions about this maybe your daughter has some answers also. It is hurtful and you obviously want to correct any negative thoughts put into his head.