Monster children

[Deedee1313]

My daughter has 5 children ages 3,4,4,5,and 7.The 4 year old boy is mildly autistic.The 5 year old boy has aspergers(spelling).I watch them all day while she works and I have very little behavior problems.When they go home she has problems almost as soon as they walk through the door.They do what she calls tag teaming her.When she trys to make them listen they will all sit in the middle of the floor with their fingers in their ears,kicking their feet and saying la,la,la so that she will know that they aren't listening to her.At other times they will run around the room jumping on and off the coffee table and couch while dancing and yelling.I didn't believe they were that bad so she recorded it on her camera.She is getting to the point that she doesn't want them anymore.She loves them but she can't take it.There isn't a dad in the picture.Has anyone had this problem that would be able to give some advise on anything she could do to get these children in check?

[Deedee1313]

She has tried the same things that I do.The problem is that she didn't use to make them behave.I was "mean Grandma" right from the beginning.It is like they don't have any respect for her or what she says.The 4 year old is the one she calls the ring leader.She had to super glue her screens shut to keep him off the roof.She has alarms on her doors and cupboards.We are buying a lock for the frig because they will get up in the middle of the night and dump the milk and the eggs and finish off with whatever they can get to in the cupboards.She has caught them climbing on each others shoulders to get to things she has put out of reach.Most days she is in tears.

[RockRose]

Grandma,  the key is in the fact that you don't have any troubles with them.  Lordy,  that's a LOT of small children.

I wonder if you could share your expertise with her?    They behave for you,  so they will behave.  

I'm sorry there is no dad in the picture - this makes it MUCH harder for her - but with your experience it seems she can learn to create order.