kids behaviour

[anjana27]

Hi, I recently went to visit one of my old freind. I had not seen her son since he was born. he is 5yrs now. I stayed with them for about a month and i really had hard time. That 5yrs kid used want to touch me all the time.When m playing with him or carrying him he used to try to slip his hand under my t-shirt. he used to ask me to lie down so that he can touch me. He used to try to touch my private parts almost all the time but i used to push his hand away.He used to tell me aunty mum is upstairs how about u and me lie down together and play a touching game. I used to just ignore the topics by saying only bad boys plays such games and if he is good boy like his father he won't try to play such games. One day when i was taking shower that boy was trying to peek i know cause his father caught him right then and scolded him. i heard the whole thing.. So many time when m in my room and if i suddenly open my door to go out i would find him trying to peek through the door hole.Sometime when m sitting and watching tv he would try to put his hand between my legs. I used to try to ignore by simply removing his hand and folding my legs and he used to ask oh please keep your legs straight. I used to just tell me No sternly and ignore
I tried telling this to my freind but she got upset at me saying he is just a kid. I had one hell of a time because i am not married yet and don't have any kids and this was the first time i was  living with kids. Was that a normal behaviour.. M so unsure if i want to visit them anymore though i don't want to spoil my relationship. What should i do?

[anjana27]

hi,

His mum has seen him slipping his hand under my t-shirt also trying to put his hand between my legs. she just stared at him and told him not to do it but he kept continuing it. It came to the point when he started doing it when his mum was not watching that's when  he used to say mum is upstair how about u and me play touching game. I told this to his mum she got upset at me saying he is just a kid and does not understand and I'm over reacting. I was so confused and embarassed. I don't know anything about kids. I could not scold him or discipline him as he is my friend son so all i used to do was try to explain to him what he is doing is wrong and only bad boys do such stuff..

Was my freind right was i over reacting.. I am so confused. She wants me to visit her again next year but should i visit her if yes how should i behave around that kid. Please help

[margypops]

I agree with you best to not go there when he has done this you tell his mom and you get up other wise he is getting the message it is okay..speak to his Mom ..

[sim23]

no surely not this is not acceptable behaviour. they need counselling.